Hi. I am 53 years old and my mum died 3 weeks ago. I still miss her so much and cant stop cryingbwhen i am on my own. I blame myself cause i didnt pa attention to her getting unwell and missed signs. So miss her
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I lost my mum in February. I feel guilt too, so i know how you feel, but she wouldnt want me to. I was 53 when i lost her. I cry and miss her so much. I lived with her. I dont know what advice to give, sorry. Have you any good friends? I have a good friend, who visits nearly once a week. Take care, its still early days for you.
Thank you for this. I also lived with my mum. I have a couple of good friends but it is still hard. Again thank you for thi reply
Just seen you reply. Youre welcome.
I also lost my mum 4 weeks ago and it’s the worst feeling in the world, and I’m looking back thinking did I do enough to help her when she became ill .
I’m feeling very lonely even though I have people around me. The only thing I can say is keep busy, when I feel down I find something to do, today I’m sorting through paperwork.
It’s very hard to get motivated again but just take it slow and look after yourself 
xxx
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Hi, i lost my step mum at the begining of July, she came into my life when i was 17, married my dad jyst after my 18th, i will be 60 in 3 weeks.
She was amazing, so kind and generous, more of a mother to me than my own mother- who hasnt even bothered to call me, just sent some texts…
Very much like you i try to keep it together when im at work but when im home alone the tears flow.
The only thing i can say to you, is be honest,when someone asks “how are you doing” tell them the truth, if youre struggling, tell them.
Its the people who dont say anything i find hardest to deal with.
Were strong women and we can do this, one step at a time x
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Hi guys,
I lost my mum in June and I just wanted to say how much I relate to all your words. I’m putting one foot in front of the other but it’s a struggle every day and I don’t feel like anyone understands. I just went back to work as was signed off then had school holidays and my colleagues all seem to have forgotten it even happened which to me seems crazy and I feel like I’m walking around without half my body. My partner has been great but so clearly just wants me to be “better” and stop crying, he doesn’t know how to deal with my pain which some days feels like it’s going to tear me in half. Anyway thank for for your words and honestly above, they’ve made me feel less alone tonight xx
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How are you this morning?.
8 weeks into this journey and its still not real, but in those 8 weeks i have done one thing that really helped… i had a chat with my GP, i didnt have to temper my words for fear of upsetting her or worrying she would think badly of me, im barely functioning, just going through the motions really, she didnt care that i was worried about not having really done any housework lately, as she said, it’ll still be there when im ready to do it.
So the upshot of that appointment is that counselling is the way to go, for me at least…
My mum died 9 weeks ago and tonight i keep crying. Miss her so much. I know it will get better but crying tonight