i lost my 90yr old mum in June this year. Never had a chance to say goodbye. Mum was supposed to come home from hospital for her to die at home to see me and our dog to say our ladt goodbyes. It didn’t happen. Some family memebers didn’t get her out of hospitalin time. She died 10 minutes before she was due to come home. I feel so betrayed by mum dieing and not hanging on just a few more minutes. I feel so robbed of my last goodbyes and i love yous by them family members espcially when i hdnt seen mum in hospital for two weeks already. A family member wonted let me go to see mum when he went to see her every night and a few afternoons. Mum was in hospital for three weeks and i was only aloud to go to see her once in that time. That’s why it was so inportant for mum and me to have this little time left to see eachother and say our last goodbyes and love yous. I miss my mum so much i just wont her to come back home physically hug eachother and tell eachother we love one another. That’s never going to happen.
Hi @jenifer25,
Thank you for bravely reaching out. I’m so sorry to hear about the loss of your mum and I can only imagine how hard it must be not having had the chance to say goodbye. You are not alone. I’m not sure if you’ve seen our Losing a parent category. But there you will find lots other members sharing their experiences of living with grief after losing a parent.
I’m sure someone will be along to offer their support to you. In the meantime, you might find these Sue Ryder resources helpful to read.
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Our Losing a parent page talks through some of the emotions you may be experiencing
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Our Grief Guide self-help platform which has information, resources and advice to help you through your grief
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Our Bereavement Information pages which can walk you through what you are going through
I hope you find the community to be a support to you. Take good care and keep reaching out 
Alex