My mum passed away today. She was diagnosed with secondary breast cancer last week Wednesday. We were told she’s had it for years, however, she was always very stubborn lady and she refused to see a doctors for anything. It has spread absolutely everywhere to the point that she even had very rare types of tumours growing on her. I still cannot believe it. We knew it’s coming and we knew it’s imminent but did not expect it to be so soon. I’m so heartbroken.
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So sorry to hear about your loss. I lost my mum 6 and a half weeks ago. Grief can be overwhelming. It’s hard for the loved ones who are left. I try to focus on happy memories. This will get easier as time goes on. It’s so raw for you at this moment in time. Sending love x
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So sorry for your loss. My partner was like that and never went to her doctor. She had cervical cancer that spread everywhere. Its natural to feel angry about it.
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Thank you for your kind words. I am also sorry for your loss. It’s still feel surreal.
The worst thing is that the doctors are putting blame on us, the children. But I can’t tell you how many times we begged her to get checked, especially that she was slowly deteriorating over the years. We didn’t know she had cancer until last week. She was very good at hiding things from us, and when asked, she would ignore the questions. I guess, she was scared too, she wanted to ignore it with hopes that nothing would happen to her. I’m angry but also very sad. I live abroad for many years so I managed to flee back last weekend to see her. This was my goodbye 
I like to think of the old addage “You can take a horse to water but cant force it to drink.” You have to respect the person’s wishes and thats so difficult when you’re in desperation. Cancer is a killer. Please dont listen to the doctors as you have no blame to shoulder. Be kind to yourself.
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This is exactly what I told my siblings. We couldn’t do more than we did. Cancer sucks.