I miss her every day. Each day is getting harder. I can’t deal with the suddenness of it. Over three months now and struggling. How do we cope ?!
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Hi, I don’t have any amazing strategy to take away the pain of your grief sadly. You have survived three months so you know that you can keep going… It’s over 5 months for me and it seems grief is always there but sometimes more a dull ache rather than a sharp agony. I’m not motivated to go on holiday or even take trips to places that would have given me enjoyment before my Mum’s death. I’ve accepted that I should go with my feelings for the time being because these difficult times will pass. All we can do is keep going, trying our best because we know that’s what our Mums would want. Take care xx
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Thank you for your kind reply. It’s so hard. I’m having counselling which is sort of helping to process things.
It’s better than u thought it would be. You take care too x
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Then I thought it would be rather. Sorry typo
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I’m so sorry to every single one of you on here who has lost a parent. I lost my mum 2 years ago quite suddenly after a 2 month cancer diagnosis and I find myself in shock reading that some of you only lost yours 2/3/4/5 months ago because it has just hit me that although it’s been 2 years it feels like it was yesterday. I will say from my own experience that my grief has changed in many different ways over the last 2 years. I definitely know how to cope on a day to day basis a lot better now and I’m not constantly consumed by the sadness like I once was. However, I miss my mum more than ever and some days do feel like I’m right back to square one again, grief is a never ending process and from what I’ve heard and looking back on my own timeline- it is definitely not a linear process and the stages can come and go as many times as they like. I will say that I am no longer the person I used to be and part of the grief has been grieving for who I once was and the acceptance of the new me because when she died a part of me did too- this is okay, it’s not nice, but it’s something I have to accept and learn to live with. Sending love to you all and just know that you will get through this, just take things day by day x
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Hi, I know what you mean about going through different phases in grief. For me it’s coming up to the 6 month anniversary of my Mum’s sudden and unexpected death. Yesterday I was back dwelling on the day of her death and the following brutal days. I even switched on her phone and tried to fathom her passcode (unsuccessfully!). Even in the relatively short amount of time since my Mum’s death I have felt a maelstrom of different emotions and I expect this to continue forever. This grief is the hardest I’ve experienced and sadly I wasn’t a stranger to loss before. All we can do is keep going with trying to live our best life because that’s what our Mums would want. Best wishes xx
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I can totally relate lovely. I lost my mum just before Christmas and I am finding life more difficult the more time goes on. Lost. Empty. Alone. People that love me are so supportive but I can’t seem to move past this feeling of loss. Take care x
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