Yesterday was 9 months since we lost our mum .It was a horrible day .Was upset and lost all day .Then we get the call her headstone is ready for viewing that pushed me over the edge .I cried like the day we lost her ,dont get me wrong i still cry most days over her but this news for some reason upset me like that day .So me being me distanced myself from my partner again and shut myself away .Why do i do this he is so supportive. This pain in losing mum is horrible still .This time of year was mums favourite she loved Christmas. I dont want todo Christmas but im going through the motions because of my grandkids and kids .As the one thing i would like for Christmas i cant have just 5mins with my mum for a hug and chat .
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Hello Emma40
Iām so sorry for the loss of your mum. Thank you for sharing this with us. Iām just giving your thread a gentle, ābumpā for you - hopefully someone will have some thoughts to share.
Take good care, Rhi
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Hi Emma, I was the same when we finally got my mumās headstone (she died 18 months ago, and we got the headstone a year after her death). I do love having it there has helped me have somewhere to go and leave flowers and have a chat, but to see it āwritten in stoneā as it were, I just crumbled with grief. I live quite far from where my mum is buried and miss her terribly (kind of always have as we didnāt live close to each other). Anyway, I get very upset when I have to leave there if I visit, but also when I have to go there too. I am not sure how am supposed to feel to be honest. I wish I could feel more positive, but everything feels like a weight on my shoulders now that sheās gone. Take care, G xx
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Hi thanks for sharing with me what you are going through. Think its the same with me knowing its sort of more real now the stone is ready if that makes sense. X
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Thank you x