Hello everyone, just not coping at the moment, lost mum 2 years ago, its christmas and this is the time around her passing and funeral.
I just dont seem to be able to get out of this slump i am in so tited and sad xx
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Hi @Julieann1,
This is such a hard time of year for so many of our members, you are definitely not alone. It sounds all the harder for you as it’s around your mum’s anniversary and funeral. Thank you for reaching out and sharing how you’re feeling. I’m giving your thread a bump so hopefully someone will be along to offer their support 
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Hi,
Today is the first anniversary of my mum’s death. I’ll be honest, I was dreading it and have been a bit up and down emotionally. For me, it helps just to allow those emotions to come over me, whatever they are and not to push them away. If I want to cry, I’ll cry but then I’ll remember the good times I had with my mum and the good memories. If you can, try and find someone you can talk to, that has really helped me. You’ll get through this xx
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Thankyou i hope your alright too. Sending love x
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Hi Julieann,
I’m so sorry for your loss.
I’m in the same boat as you. I lost my mum 4.5 months ago & I can’t bear the thought of Christmas without her. I’m exhausted from the grief. It feels never ending.
We just have to do our best to get through it minute by minute & not put too much pressure on ourselves.
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Hey I feel your pain and understand completely as I to lost my Mum, she’s been gone for one year 9 months and this will be my second christmas without her.
Every day I get these moments of intense sadness still and don’t think they’ll ever be a day where I don’t think about it.
Coming up to Christmas makes it so much harder to! I’m sorry I don’t know what to say to make you feel better but I can offer my complete understanding of what you’re going through x
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Thankyou so much everyone xx
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I’m in the same boat Julieann, so I feel for you. What happened? If you don’t mind talking about it.
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My mum had cancer which she had treatment for, and we were told she was clear. She went into hospital for susspected uti/sepsis, where she was treated very badly. On her final trip back into hosp ( she had 2 failed discharges) they did her scan and told us she had cancer in her bones as it had spread. Apparantly the first hospital missed a tumor on her lung from a while ago, so she actually had cancer all the time and we didnt know. So she suffered for no reason cos some Dr made a mistake and just didnt tell us. Both hospitals treated her really badly, it breaks my heart how she suffered at their hands. Her funeral was on 20th dec 2 years ago, i remember sitting in her little bungalow as she lived next door to me thinking wheres my mum its christmas. So its hard for me all the time but especially now. X
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Hi Julieann
Sorry for your loss, I know it’s difficult I think it always will be. I still think of my mum and it’s been 16 months now for me. I think we never forget the person that loved us, maybe we take that for granted when they are alive. No one is perfect I miss my mum and most likely always will as mum’s are special and irreplaceable. We just have to somehow live with the loss, somehow. xx
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Thankyou everyone xx
I’m really sorry to hear this and I completely emphasise on the useless hospital point. I’m so sorry you both had to go through that. Was she comfortable at the end?
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Yes she was ok at the end. Sadly she died and we were not with her though. My son went to see her before they told him she had passed so it was a bit of a shock when he found her bless him xxx
My experience of our local hospital was really bad. There were some staff who really tried their best & showed compassion towards the vulnerable patients but some were really bad. Mum was in there for 7 weeks & I used to go in from 7.30 am to midnight & the things I saw go on were traumatising.
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Yes i can completely believe that on mums ward they had 2 lovely nurses, the rest were like they just didnt want to be there, awful xx
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Hi @Julieann1, I am sorry to read you post. This will be my first Christmas without my husband who died in June 2024. I am going through the motions my friend helped me put up our tree and put up some decorations. Did i want to do this no not really but my friend and my dad will be spending the day with me. How will i feel Christmas morning i have no idea. You will be in my thoughts. Take care. Xxx
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And you will be in mine. So sorry for your loss, it can be a sad time xx
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