My mum is on end of life pathway but I just don’t want to visit her in hospital, heavily sedated. I saw her the day before she took a turn for the worse and it was horrendous. I’m a bad, selfish daughter. 
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So sorry to hear this, I’ve had two end of life situations in 2 years (my dad and uncle) and my husband who’s just 43 will be next. Even though your mum is heavily sedated she can probably still hear so music can be a good thing.
You have to do what you have to do but, if you were close to your mum, you may regret not going. That’s not to say you “should” feel guilty if you don’t but I’d hate for you to regret it.
Are there any other family members with her?
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watching someone you love dying in my opinion is very trumatic ,so sorry you have to go through this .do what you feel is best. i stayed with my dad till he took his last breath i will never forget that .godbless you all
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So sorry to hear about your Mum. Everyone deals with these situations differently, and only you know what is right for you but I wouldn’t want you to regret not spending the final days with your Mum.
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@Bev9 it’s a brutal situation that nobody wants to witness. Perhaps with the support of other family or friends you may feel able to be there? Not being with your Mum at this time may bring regrets later on. I didn’t get a choice as my Mum collapsed and died on her own. I’ve often struggled with the shock of this ending for her. Ultimately you must do what feels right for you. Best wishes xx
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