Mum’s funeral tomorrow, how do people cope? I’m so worried that I’m going to fall apart when I see my mum’s coffin.
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All you can do is surround yourself with those who care about you, hold on tight and if you want to cry, let it rip. Best wishes.
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You know, it’s ok if you fall apart. No one will think anything of it, only empathise. But we can often cope with more than we think, even a funeral. Lean on the ones close to you, it will feel extremely surreal when you’re there. Sending you hugs and strength. 
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Let your day happen!
If you fall apart that fine ,
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@Victoria22 expect it to be a very strange day, full of emotions. Just take it step by step and let yourself be carried along by the process. You will get through it somehow because we’re all stronger than we think. Don’t be worried to show your emotions, let people support you. Best wishes xx
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Am so sorry for your devastating loss. I lost my mum coming up 6 months ago.
The day was pretty much a blur for me, take your time…take comfort and have your friend’s and family close. It will possibly be the hardest day of your life, breaking is fine, crumbling is fine, screaming is fine…whatever gets you through. Lots of deep breaths helped for me and i wore one of mums favourite brooches that day. Sending you much thoughts love and care x
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A funeral while fundamentally sad, is also a time for friends and relations to come together who perhaps one has not seen for years, and that, in itself, can be a source of grate comfort, and the healing process can begin.
My mum past on the 5th January 2023, her funeral was with her ashes on the 17th April, and was more a celebration of her 95 year life, and I was determined to do her justice.
I went the direct cremation route and gotbher ashes in February, I organised the funeral myself but based it on my late dads service sheet.
I more or less led the funeral service myself and delivered her eulogy, it was well received, and by putting it off till April had allowed other people to travel, it was wonderful to see my God sisters from the South who I have not seen for many years, and having been a total wreck under a mental health nurse BEFORE my mum died my having looked after her more or less on m y own for 4 years, I had to some extent recovered my health, and was in a fit state to do it, sometimes it really is better to wait, ashes are ashes, her casket forms the centre of the wall memorial to my family, I being the only one left,
I requested casual dress, I did not want to think I was conducting a mathier convention.
In short, I took ownership of the funeral, and dictated events rather then being swepped along by them, so much better!
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