My beautiful eldest daughter Kim died on Tuesday July 26th from a massive brain aneurysm, she was 54. She had just returned from her daughter’s wedding in Turkey on Monday 25th and she just collapsed and was gone. My son in law did CPR, Paramedics took over and blue lighted Kim to hospital. She was kept on a life support machine until the Tuesday, my granddaughter and her husband were able to get a flight back. We knew that Kim was brain dead which was confirmed when the Doctors did the brain stem death tests. I have 3 amazing daughters who were so very close to Kim, best friends as well as sisters, I love them all so much but they are broken and I don’t want to share how I feel with them all the time, I do sometimes.
I’m just heartbroken. People keep saying that at least we have beautiful memories of the wedding etc but, although they mean to be kind comments like that really don’t help just now, maybe one day.
I’ve never felt pain like this, Kim shouldn’t have died before me.
Thank you for reading.
Love Lynn
I am so sorry for your loss I totally understand your heartbreak and the feeling of emptiness
My thoughts are with you xxx
Hi Lynn I am so sorry for you lost your daughter Kim. I lost my son three years ago. Someone told me here I was now a member of a club no one wished to join as the cost was too high.
I remember the early days of loss, the heartbreaking pain no mother should ever feel. I wish I could say something to make your grief easier, but I know I cant.
I am now in a better place, I had counselling last year as I was struggling. We speak of him often, we laugh about his antics. I cry less.
Mums try to fix everything, it is important you care for yourself as you care for others you love.
It is wrong in nature for a Mother to outlive a child.
Xx
Thank you so much for caring Marg 1 xx
I’m so sorry you lost your son Gayle, it’s the worst thing to happen isn’t it? I want to make it all better for my girls but I can’t. Thank you for sharing your journey, every little bit of wisdom from someone who knows how it feels helps. Xx
Losing your child is the Worst Thing. My beloved son died in April -the pain of missing him is unbearable. My other son and my daughter are grieving too, we are a very close family. So I know how Lynne feels when she says her daughters were “best friends”. My boys were “best mates” all their lives and they both adored their younger sister (as she did them). I hate to see my children so heartbroken. My son had a lovely wife and two children, who we are trying to support.
It is a case of getting through each day, being kind to other people and taking care of ourselves. Grief is exhausting. Wishing you well and sending love x