My beautiful 32year old daughter passed away suddenly last Tuesday. The pain is like nothing I have ever experienced in my life and I am barely getting through minutes in the day let alone hours. My Doctor prescribed sleeping tablets as sleep evades me and food just tastes of heartache. She was 10 weeks pregnant and has left two beautiful children aged 9 and 5. I am trying so hard but the loss is just so intense. She has two amazing sisters who are in denial and numb. It was so painful, I feel like I saw her take her first and last breath and that image prays on my mind all the time. Does it ever get less painful. Right now I just can’t see it. Broken hearted 
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My beautiful daughter died on Christmas Eve very suddenly and tragically. Like you, I am absolutely devastated. She was my first born, my only daughter and my best friend xx I was in utter shock for weeks and couldn’t sleep at all. I am sleeping again now a bit better . So so sorry for your loss. It genuinely is the worst nightmare you can ever imagine xx My heart goes out to you xxxxx:broken_heart:
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Thank you Elizabeth, I am still in a state of shock. I am going through so many emotions. I went to her home today and was inconsolable, so many memories that I have to pack. Trying to figure out what to keep and not wanting to throw away a thing. How can life be so very cruel. My heart goes out to you truly. Losing a child anytime let alone Chrustmas Eve is unimaginable. Do you have support around you to share the beautiful memories of your daughter? I know I am in the early stages, but find talking about her helps. My heart breaks for you too. I am so glad you are getting some sleep. I feel like that will never happen even with sleeping tablets. My mind is whirling about a hundred miles an hour, replaying everything over an over
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For about 10 or 11 weeks I genuinely got no sleep or an hour at the most. I had no idea trauma and grief could make you feel so physically ill! I can’t imagine experiencing anything in my life now without just wanting Claire, my daughter, to be there. Thank you so much for answering me and I’m so so sorry for your loss xxxxx
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I am lucky to have a lovely husband ( not Claire’s Dad), an amazing son and a wealth of friends and family thank you xx Still feel empty and bereft xx
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Feeling really heartbroken today, I go through the motions, feel totally numb. Then I remember something or relive her passing over and over and I break down again. I have no udea where these tears come from as I feel like I have none left.
I am glad you have a lovely husband, so do I not my daughters dad either, a son and wonderful family and friends as I think we need that. I have my other two beautiful girls and 7 grandchildren. Two are my daughters that passed. They are amazing and a testament to her. They do bring me joy and I feel guilty for that but know deep in my heart, she would want me to be for her children. I know this pain will never leave me, I just hope I can learn to live with it xx
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I would genuinely give anything to have my beautiful girl and best friend back. I feel I should be doing better than I am but find things just get harder rather than easier. Just unbearable pain xxx
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Mackay so sorry for the lose of your daughter I lost my only child Amy in October 21 at 36 leaving behind 3 beautiful children, the pain for me is unbearable feel like half my heart died with her and the other half is broken into little pieces, I will light a candle for your daughter thinking of you and your family xx
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ElizabethDrew Me too, I have had such a traumatic few days. The post mortem came back and it a pulmonary embolism just like how my Dad and Aunt passed. All of this info was given to the Doctors and they dismissed it and said it was a clot that wouldn’t kill her. That was 7th April, she was gone on the 26th. I am so absolutely heartbroken and there are so many what ifs!!! I know I am not going to get my baby back 
. I feel your pain so much too. She was my best friend as well xx
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Sue246 it’s devastating, no pain like it. I feel like I am going about like a zombie, barely functioning with this horrendous pain. Like I can feel it in my soul. My heart aches so badly. I am so very sorry for your loss. I totally understand and I feel like I can’t quite give everything to my Grandkids because there is so much pain. Thank you for lighting a candle for my daughter , I will do the same for yours xx
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I lost my 28 year old daughter to cancer last year, she was expecting her first baby and he was delivered early to start her treatment, sadly it only bought her 7 months, 7 months of chemo, pain and anguish. I miss her every day, some days, most days I feel I can’t carry the pain any longer, some hours of some days I feel ok, or am I numb? Then it hits me again, the flashbacks, me wanting to take her place, still would. I talk to her every day in my mind but I don’t feel the same person anymore. Life seems to carry on around me and that in itself almost seems to condense my pain. I feel a deep painful ache in my chest and it hurts. Sleep evades me but then the sleeping tablets have a knock on effect so I stop them, then reach a point where I need them again. Does it get better? I’m not sure it does. When I wake up each morning I know I’m one more day closer to being with her again and I’m only 63. I can’t envisage I’ll get over this, my heart is broken, the pain, the grief exhausts me.
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Hi Primrose1, I am so very sorry for your loss. It must be so painful to watch your beautiful daughter go through all that pain and anguish . You will miss her immensely. I totally feel your pain, it never leaves you. You just pretty much survive each day as best you can. There is no pain like that of losing your child and like you I would trade places if it meant she lived on. Keep talking to her, talk about her, remember all the joy and happiness she brought you. It will give you some comfort. I think we have to try and live a new norm. We never move on, we just try our best to move forward. Our love will never be the same, we will never ever forget them. I feel emotionally and mentally exhausted. People tell me I am so strong, but I don’t feel it inside. I feel broken, numb like you and a big chunk if me is missing. This group are really lovely and supportive. Have you got support from family and friends ? Sending you the biggest of hugs xx
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