My beautiful Mum passed away 7 weeks ago yesterday. She had been so looking forward to a holiday abroad and some sunshine and even in her latter years was able to travel and was in relatively good health. Two days into the trip she took very poorly and was admitted to hospital, but after a day or two seemed to be on the mend. However, on day 3 she was admitted into intensive care, which was when I received a call from Dad informing me of the situation. I flew out the following day and met Dad at the hospital where we told she had had to have emergency surgery and was put on support for 24 to 48 hours. Mum never regained consciousness and after 3 weeks was brought back home to the UK in an air ambulance and passed away in a UK hospital. I just can’t get my head around the fact that she went away in such good spirits and well and was brought back to the UK emaciated and has left us so suddenly. The pain for Dad and the rest of the family is so hard to deal with and seems to be getting worse.
I am so sorry for your loss. Your story is very similar to mine although it was my husband I lost. We went on a week’s holiday in the sun, he had a fall developed complications. Ended up in intensive care and after 6 weeks was repatriated back to UK and died 2 months later without ever speaking again. It is such a shock to go on holiday and then end up in this situation. There is the extra trauma of being in another country and having to sort out air repatriation etc Mine was over year ago but the nightmare of what happened hasn’t gone away. Do look after yourself and your poor Dad. xxx
Thank you so much for responding Nala, it has been such a traumatic time. It takes so much comfort to talk about it xx
All I can say is that although the grief is still awful, I have accepted that it happened and it’s no good questioning if we hadn’t been on holiday would the outcome have been the same etc. When I returned from Madeira and I lost my husband, my GP considered the flashbacks were a form of PTSD as it was such difficult situation. Take care and my thoughts are with you at this sad time xx