I lost my husband of 53 years in March 2023 and have stru ggled so much but my only Daughter feels that she has so much in her life that she cant give me the support I thought she could so although I see a really lovely and helpful Bereavement Counsellor I feel I have no other support. I go to Groups and see people but it is not the same as having your Daughter understand how you feel so I must keep the immense pain to myself.
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Firstly sorry to hear of the death of your husband, so many years with someone is hard to get used to them not being here anymore.
I want to say maybe your daughter deals with it in her own way but I do not know your family story so do not want to comment on what I don’t know or understand.
All I can say is this app seems to help with like minded people going through the same. We all deal with grief differently and it’s good to talk it off. That’s what I’ve found anyway, I can express my emotions with no judgement or expectation, if someone replies then great.
I’m happy to listen/chat anytime you want
That must be awful for you, there are lots of stories on here where support has not been forthcoming from areas where you thought it would…
Im so sorry for your loss, I understand how you feel, I too lost my beloved husband on 23rd November 2024 to cancer we had just celebrated our 22nd wedding anniversary on 19th October.
Maybe your daughter is grieving herself for her dad, I tell my kids thats im ok as they are grieving for their dad in their own way.
I start my grief counselling on Wednesday, so lets see how it goes, I miss him everyday and struggling without him.
Try asking your daughter how she feels and start the conversation from there.
My husband of 54 years died in July 2022 and i am still so broken about it and can’t seem to pick up on life at all. I have 2 sons and their families and i moved house to be nearer to them but they have their own lives and although supportive up to a point I am just so desperately lonely and I miss my old home of so many years and the life I shared there with my husband. So i fully understand how everyone else is feeling but it is all so terribly hard.
hello, My husband had cancer and passed away in July 2022 also. I also moved house to be near my family. Unfortunately all my friends live 30 to 40 miles away from me so I don’t get to meet up with them much… I do sympathise with you and you probably have good days and bad days like me, am I correct? Do you find the evenings are the worst time when you are on your own? Be kind to yourself, and remember all the good times you had together. I find that helps in the evenings. take care, all the best.
Thank you for your kind reply. it’s the long lonely days which cripple me. My two sons think I am being very negative when I say i miss my old home and area. I only lived 7 miles from them and a 20 minute journey by car but the younger one was very persuasive saying I would see far more of them as due to busy lives with children it was far easier for them if I moved in case I was ill but apart from having a nice house which i am grateful for this area holds no appeal at all for me but if I moved back to my former area it would break my younger son’s heart as he in particular has done so much for me and bent over backwards since I have lived here and I am only a 5 minute walk from him and 10 minutes from my other son so I feel that I must stay here. I don’t actually see anymore of them as they are so busy.
I am nearly 82 but just wish I had never moved from my old area. Thank you and I send you my best wishes.
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