Today is my birthday. I’m getting through the day well since losing my mum in May this year. I’m her only daughter and we meant the world to each other. I visit the cemetery most days. Been today. Always pray and ask for a sign. Today, especially with it being my birthday, I thought I may feel her presence or get a sign… but nothing. Don’t know why I feel a little let down today over this. Am I reading too much into this, and then feeling disappointed because I feel or don’t get any signs, today of all days?
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Hi - Happy Birthday to you. I know it is possibly not the birthday you want without your mum, but hope you can make the best of it. I really hope you get a sign or feel her presence in some way. Take care & try to enjoy your day. All the best, Alison xx 
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Awww thanks… guess I feel a little deflated because I feel or see nothing today. x
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There is time yet, amazing things can happen sometimes. x
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Ah it’s so hard, having expectations and then being disappointed. It sounds like you should be proud of yourself for coping well with each day after losing your Mum. I hope your day has sparks of joy in it and you are able to remember some lovely memories of your Mum too. Birthday best wishes to you xx
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Youareunbelievable: I feel you so much. 
Only daughter too, had a super strong relation with my mum. Signs will come!! Birthdays are just so hard. I used to send her flowers for my birthday every year. I learnt that from a friend: she said that on our birthday we should send flowers to our mums because they were doing all the work on that day X years ago! So since then we swapped roles: I sent my mum flowers rather than the other way around. Last year, on my birthday, I didn’t have anyone to send them to so I made a donation to a homeless charity (an issue close to out heart). Her birthday is harder though. I also go on her grave & cry. I think I’m seeing signs. That’s why I hope you will too. Once I heard her voice saying “I’ve gone away” (I was half asleep so it could be a dream). I took it as “I’m just somewhere else”. I don’t dream of her much (sadly) but I see her favourite birds, and the roses in her garden have become incredibly flowery. Of course, there’s a scientific explanation for everything but I hope these are signs. She always said “if there’s a way to get in touch, I will”. Your mum will find a way too. Just not the way you expect. Sometimes signs are v small. Maybe just finding the strength to cope is a sign she’s sending you that strength. Sending you love & hope.
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Oh thank you so much. Lovely through these tough times. I look for signs, but maybe too much. I know they will come. Take care. xx
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@youareunbelievable I felt the same on my Birthday. Dad died weeks before it in March & I thought I’d get some kind of acknowledgment as he always made a fuss but nothing & tbh if it wasn’t for my mum & family, I’d have gladly ignored the event. I hope you have some special moments this week to make up for it. X
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