In May 2024 my boyfriend found a new job in a town about 3 hours from our hometown. He was coming home each weekend. On the weekend of 25 May he came and we celebrated his birthday and he went back to work on the Sunday. At the time I was 37 weeks pregnant. On Monday, 27 May I woke up feeling really unwell and decided to go to the gynae. I was trying to get hold of my boyfriend but his phone was not going through so I just assumed he was busy at work. When I got to the hospital, they discovered that I had caught RSV from my then 4 year old and baby was in distress so an emergency c-section had to be done. My Mom rushed to the hospital and the baby was born. This was around 10am. When we got back to the maternity ward I saw a whole bunch of missed calls from a random number and asked my Mom to call them back. Turned out to medics and a hospital as I was my boyfriends ICE contact. He had gotten into a car crash and passed away on the scene at around 8am that morning. 17 months later it still doesn’t feel real. It just feels horribly unfair and cruel.
Hello SarahMau,
I’m so sorry to read your story. That must have been a very shocking and traumatic experience - I’m not surprise you’re struggling. Are you able to get any counselling to support you with this? Not much can help us when we’re missing our loved-one, but being able to talk about it, with someone who’s trained, can be really beneficial.
I’m glad that you have found this forum - it is full of kind people who understand the pain of losing their partner.
Sending you my very best wishes,
I am so very sorry for your loss. I have no words but I’m glad you have a piece of him as a wonderful memorial.
I am hoping your children give you the strength to get through your loss 
I am so truly sorry for your loss.
It was horrifying what has happened.
If you need to talk just say.
Best wishes.