My brother died last year. He had a brain tumour. It involved a traumatic three weeks on ICU before we let him go.
I have got through the first year, worked, functioned, run a marathon.
Got past the first year and I am on my knees. I stopped work, am having counselling, taking antidepressants.
Im very miserable. My parents are both alive. They lived with him. They are devastated.
He was in his early 40s.
Im not sure how to get past this point. I feel really stuck
I am so sorry for your loss. I am very sure he knows how much you loved him.
I am trying to cope with my loss by keeping occupied and busy. It is devastating and hard but I’m trying everything to cope with my grief.
People say to take every minute at a time then every hour at a time then every day.
We are all here experiencing grief should you need to talk and chat about it.
I think the first year after a major loss we are somewhat numb and in a daze. By the second year, the reality and permanence has hit. I can only say I’m sorry and I hope things lighten up for you as you process it.
I think sadly time takes us with it. you end up moving along with time, and life. it is literally each day dawns and you do your things and then a month is gone a season a year. I was only and lost parents but regardless I think it is all the same when talking about immediate family. the best thing is to ease up on yourself and let grief have its way as it does, anyway. hard facts of life.
“Let grief have its way as it does anyway.” You have summed this up so well.
I lost my younger sister just over five years ago to brain cancer,she did have an operation but it was too aggressive and she died within 14 weeks of diagnosis…it was horrendous and at the time and through those first 2 years I thought I’d never ever start to feel happy again ,I didn’t believe it was ever going to be possible.But five years on I am,I still have moments where it hits me again but it’s fleeting and not all consuming like it used to be.Slowley I went from crying every day most of the day to just every second day then every week or so and then this past year then fiveth year just on birthdays or Xmas time…I still miss her ,but I’ve managed to continue with life and remember her with a smile.You will too in you’re own time
Hi, sorry for your loss it hits hard losing a sibling, I lost my brother last year at 45 he was my little brother, even now it doesn’t seem real, I’m still wondering when it will hit me he’s really gone.
Hi
I am too mourning the loss of my brother. My elder sister, brother in law and me found him on July 3rd this year in his bed.
We can’t understand how he passed as the coroner says it’s sudden unexpected death. He was 53. Such a loving caring positive brother. Sending love out to all who are grieving. Hoping to remember him with a smile without these floods of tears that keep falling. x