My dad died very suddenly 2 weeks ago and i am really struggling to cope. Both my sisters dont stay here and my mum is now all alone. I feel completely lost and cant cope with the rhought of nevrr seeing him again.
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So sorry. You’ve come to the right place, here. We understand 
. Do you live close to your mum?
Hi, yes, a 5 minute drive away.
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The reason I ask is because I’ve been staying with my mum since we lost my dad, just over 3 months ago. It has helped us both .
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I really struggle being in the house at the moment because that is where he died. When i am there i just keep expecting to see or hear him. I have asked my mum to stay at mine but she just wants to be in her house, which i completely understand.
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I completely understand . It’s so difficult. You are so new to this horrible journey. Take your time, and take care of yourself and each other. I had lots of colds and a chest infection in the early weeks and months. It knocks you for six. It’s horrible, but posting on here has helped me, as well as getting outside for walks.
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Thank you. You are so right about being not well. I have had the cold and aches and pains since this happened so will be trying to get more sleep and rest. Thank you for replying to my message it means alot and for your kind words.
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You’re more than welcome . Everyone on here wants to help reduce each other’s pain, because we all know what it’s like 
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My sympathies. It’s so hard, I know, and first weeks in particular you’re still in shock. I’m glad you found your way here, I hope it will help you to read people’s stories and see that you’re not alone. 
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It’s still so raw what you are going through take each day as it comes. I have found comfort on here. Just talking about it helps as some times I don’t like to ask for help as I know everyone has struggles as well.
My dad passed in September and I hate that that feels so far away. It feels like yesterday. I hate that I can’t speak to him as he is the only one I want to speak to.
One day at a time, and if you can’t think about that one hour at a time and if you can’t think about anything remember your dad would want you to carry on and be happy.
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I’m so sorry for your loss and particularly with how sudden it happened. You must be in total shock. My own Dad died after a really short illness and hospital stay. We thought he had a chest infection but it turned out to be really bad pneumonia and he never responded to the medication and lost his fight. I never got to say goodbye as a few hours after he was admitted he had really bad delirium and that pretty much stayed with him until he passed. Do you have close friends you can talk to and be with? Maybe speak to your GP to get referred for grief counselling? In the early days, and still, we all talked and laughed about the funny memories of my Dad. For us, it helped. I still feel as you do and can’t believe I’ll never see him again but I try and think of happier times when he was here and all the fun we had. Its all that gets me through really and as each day passes, it has got a little better. I have some horrible days still but I am in a place now where I can have some good days too. It will happen for you in time but until it does, be kind to yourself and take each minute of each day at a time. Sending hugs to you and your Mum
Hi Kirsty, i can relate, my dad passed away 9 days at home and the company still hasnt lifted the hospital bed, everyday i go in its there and its so difficult not seeing him in it. I stayed with mum after daddy passed away but she told me to go home(like u im 5 mins away), my mum is off that generation where u get on with stuff, me im crying at every quote, song etc.
Im glad i came across this site, think itl help xx