Hello
I need help.
I live with my dad he’s 80 years old and now and then he starts an argument trivial one at that it’s always centred around both of us losing my mum.
It’s a long story but it’s always about how very disappointed he is in me in not following in my mum’s footsteps to have a career in music and be financially comfortable he will never accept my choice to choice the jobs I’ve had and one I have now.
I do believe he’s angry with himself rather than he is with me. I just don’t feel I can talk to him but he is so unfair towards me and nothing I ever do will be good enough for him.
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I am so sorry.
Do you have any family that could visit him and give you a break?
Rose
Hello rose garden.
Thank you for your reply.
No not really it’s just my dad and I
I have a disabiled 30 year old daughter with a severe developmental delay. My dad has a sister who is extremely unwell and I have a brother who has Asperger’s syndrome and my sister lives in Florida she’s way too selfish. My dad has a brother who has Alzheimer’s l
Unfortunately I am on my own in this. My dad to be honest has been like this ever since my childhood treating me like one big disappointment. So as you can imagine I’m used to his behaviour but ever since we lost my mum he seems to of got worse. I can’t help thinking it’s anger with himself that he couldn’t save my mum. I’m now faced with the prospect my dad may have Alzheimer’s we had a stressful chat about it yesterday where I asked him to go to the doctors and get it tested. I don’t want it creeping up on me like it did with my nan who I lost through Alzheimer’s. My dad will bury his head in the sand. He’s to proud. If the time comes I’ll be ready to deal with it. It’s a lot on my shoulders to deal with. Somehow I’m going to have to speak to my sister to get her help and support. I can’t face it just on my own.
If I could get my dad to see that we need each other. My dad is always so very defensive I fear that if we never see eye to eye he’ll leave me then it’s going to be to late. I’ll be left with the bitterness
Hello,
that is a lot to deal with,
please think about yourself and what would help you.
There is the Alzheimer’s Society.
It has a website that may help find local support. It may be useful to talk to someone who could provide advice for you.
The society also has an online forum.
Regards,
Rose
Hello rose
Thank you I’ll certainly contact me
I’m convinced my dad is in the early stages of Alzheimer’s
It is so important I find out before it’s to late. I seen my nan go through it when she had Alzheimer’s it’s such a cruel disease she lived to 97 years of age one amazing woman