My dad's birthday

My dad died suddenly seven months ago and it’s his birthday next Saturday. I’ve bought him something to take to the crematorium but I can’t bare to open it. I’m still greiving and my emotions are all over the place.


Hello @Monty65 ,

I’m part of the Online Community team and I can see that you are new to the community - I’d like to thank you for bravely starting this thread and sharing how your emotions are all over the place as you reach his birthday without him. I’m so sorry to hear about your dad. Most community members have sadly experienced the death of a loved one and so will understand some of what you are going through.

I’m sure someone will be along to offer their support, but I wanted to share a few Sue Ryder resources with you that might be helpful.

I really hope you find the community helpful and a good source of support and I also hope you feel you can access more support should you need it.

Thank you again for sharing – please keep reaching out and know that you are not alone.

Take care,


What have you got him I wonder? It was my husband’s birthday 3 days ago. I got him a card, planned to make a display with his photo on the mantelpiece. Had arranged a day out with the children. In the end I could do none of these. I sat and blubbed all day, went back to bed. I couldn’t function that day. It wasn’t how I expected to feel. I stupidly thought I could make it a happy day. How was it ever going to be that, with the star of the show missing.


@AngelinaH Bless you, my Dad died a week before his Birthday in March & I bought 2 Costa coffees for mum & me to toast him with. It wasn’t the same but we had to mark the event in some small way. My brother shared his Birthday with my Dad & like you couldn’t celebrate when it was so raw. Perhaps when you feel more up to it you could have a delayed get together. Going somewhere he liked or sitting in the garden this Summer to remember his special day. Best wishes. X


I miss him so much. We’re going to the crematorium to see him and then for a meal because that’s what dad liked to do. My mum is bringing a batch of his favourite rock cakes for everyone to have. So sorry about your dad. Take care. X


@Monty65 That’s a lovely idea for your Dad. Simple gestures go the furthest. My Dad loved buns too lol. Any cakes really. The first Birthday without him will be hard for you but you have to try to mark it in some way even though he’s not there. Kindest regards. X