I lost my husband so suddenly decembrr 2021. It was so sudden. I miss him so much. I hate life without him. He was my rock. Does the pain ever get easier
I’m so sorry for the loss of your darling husband.
I’m glad that you’ve been able to share how you are feeling here and I hope that you find the community a good source of support. Everyone here has experienced the loss of a loved one and will understand some of what you are going through.
I’m sure someone will be along to offer their support, but I wanted to share a few Sue Ryder resources with you that may help you right now.
- Our Grief Guide self-help platform which has information, resources and advice to help you through your grief
- Our Grief Coach text service, which sends you personalised text support via SMS
- Our free Online Bereavement Counselling which is held via video chat
- Our Bereavement Information pages which can walk you through what you are going through.
Take good care - you are not alone.
Hi @Sallyricky …so sorry for your loss and that you find yourself in this group that none of us wanted to join.
I also lost my husband very suddenly 9 months ago today. He went out on a bike ride 5 days earlier and never came home again … was in ICU for 5 days till they turned his life support off.
At the moment I would say you are still in shock … it took about 3 months for me to accept he wasn;t actually coming home. … Yes, it still hurts today, but, it is a more manageable pain. There are obvious triggers that will set me off … but on the whole I am finding each day easier.
I will never forget my husband and the love we shared … the memories we still had to make … just the day to day companionship …after being together 47 years its hard to be alone, but, it will get a little easier for you. Hang in there… and post in here where everybody understands your pain…
I lost my husband December 2020 so one year ahead of you. I can’t say it gets easier but I think you learn to deal with it better and how to distract yourself more. I still find it so hard to go to bed on my own but gradually I am starting to do things on my own but I still wish I didn’t have to.
Sending hugs @Sallyricky, I’m behind you in time but I think the fact that I am so busy is helping me cope plus I have my younger daughter with a learning disability still living with me so I’m not on my own much. We are all different in how we deal with loss but I would suggest looking at the post from @Walan called Things That Help. Some great advice expressed clearly.
Good to hear from you and your comment about it being easier to deal with makes sense to me. I still miss Richard every day but I can get on with other things most of the time.
I feel your pain I lost my husband just 2 years ago tbe pain never seems to go away I miss him terribly sending you hugs xxx