I am still finding it hard to cope with the loss. I feel lost and alone. I have family around me but they are all on the own grief journey. I cant help them because I can’t help myself. Its been like living in a horrible dream. I am waiting for a letter of administration so that I can deal with her estate. She lived in a shared ownership and the rent and mortgage interest are mounting up. There is so much to do but I dont feel strong enough to do it all.
Hi
I lost my 11 year old son 5 months ago yesterday. Its all so tough isnt it? It was all so very sudden for us. Feel same as you. I need to paint on a smile for my other son but thats hard going. Sending you all the love and strength. Im here if you want to talk xxxxx
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Thank you so much. I am so sorry you are going through this. I think we all need a space like this to share our stories. Sometimes our closest friends and family are just too close so we try to protect their feelings.
Hi Rachal
I’m so sorry to read about your daughter, I know how you feel, 
the loss, is bad enough 
then the “How and what happened “ thingy, and yes having to deal with the fall out of it all, it won’t always be like it is now,
Try and be kind to yourself, im sure you are doing the best you can, sending you love and 
hugs.
Take care xx
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So true 
My little boy was fit and well. Then suddenly overnight he wasnt. He had leukaemia and then contracted sepsis. He was the funniest, brightest boy i ever met. Wise beyond his years. It all happened so fast and still feels like im catching my breath to be honest
I am here if you want to chat. I truly get how you are feeling x
You are being so brave. I am here for you xx
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Thank you for such kind words xx
Thank you
You are so brave aswell.
It sort of takes your breath away doesnt it?
I said i think i would have rather been physically hurt that day, it feels like i was.
I miss the chats i had with him, the way he made me laugh, his voice, what he could of been. I miss him and his brother interacting aswell 
Thank you for being so kind x
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It does. Its a physical pain. My chest hurts sometimes. I miss talking to my daughter. She was my best friend. I am married with 2 sons and care for my Dad. Im surrounded by boys and now without my daughter I feel lonely. Do you have family and friends around you? Xx
I have the best friends around me. I have a little boy who is 10 and my husband
Never missed someone so much in my life.
Theres a book on grief by Clare Mackintosh. Its called ‘i promise it wont always hurt like this’
Its really lovely and helped me x
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My 23 year old daughter passed away suddenly in July, it’s absolutely devastating and I’m still fully immersed in grief now, miss her every second of every day. I can’t look at certain photos, I can’t watch any videos of her, even though I want to.
The thing that people who’ve never gone through it don’t realise, is the admin side, how much needs doing, how hard it is facing up to doing it. I remember phoning her bank a couple of weeks later and I just couldn’t get the words out. Of course the loss is the worst thing, but dealing with the practicalities is unimaginable, particularly when it’s for someone you never thought for a moment you’d be having to.
The only advice i would give is to spread it out, do 1 thing at a time, even if it’s 1 thing per week. A lot of it can be done online too.
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So sorry for your loss 
I know exactly what you mean though. My son was only 11 so not a huge amount of admin but every single bit really hurt
Sending you so much love x
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Thank you. I have cried and every bank and utility company. I had bought her some bits for Christmas and gave them to charity and even cried in the shop. I am getting some legal guidance through my work place and some counselling. I am hoping that it all helps. It cant make it any worse. X
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Thank you xx sending love and light x
I will see if I can find the book. It might be one to share with the family once I have read it x
Its a really really lovely book
I have cried on so many random people. I just cant get my head round the fact hes not here. Need to keep going for his brother but some days just feel so heavy x
Yes that book is beautiful, it’s all heart
I am so so sorry to hear about your loss, i lost my 27 year old daughter 7 years a go on June 5th this year through DA murder. I can understand your pain and grief. Here if you need to talk. Take care
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