I lost my beautiful daughter on Saturday. She was 48 but still my baby. I’m so lost as she was my rock. I found her and I keep reliving that moment over and over again. She leaves behind her daughter, who birthday was also on Saturday. I don’t know what to do or say. I need to be strong for my granddaughter but I’m so lost and alone myself.
I also have a son with a learning disability so I have him to care for as well. I feel like I’m being selfish feeling sorry for myself but it’s hard.
Hello @Bluenun12,
I can see that you’re new to the community. I hope you find it to be a support to you, but I am so sorry for the loss of your daughter that brings you here.
I’m sure someone will be along to offer their support, but I wanted to share some resources that might help you and your granddaughter right now.
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Child Bereavement UK support support bereaved children. You can call their helpline on 0800 02 888 40.
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The Compassionate Friends support families who have lost a child of any age, including adult children. You can call them on 0345 123 2304.
Sue Ryder also has some resources which can help you cope with grief.
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Our Grief Guide self-help platform which has information, resources and advice to help you through your grief
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Our Grief Coach text service, which sends you personalised text support via SMS
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Our free Online Bereavement Counselling which is held via video chat
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Our Bereavement Information pages which can walk you through what you are going through.
Thank you again for sharing – please keep reaching out and know that you are not alone.
Take care,
Seaneen
I lost my lovely daughter nine weeks ago she has a five year old son so I try to hold things together for him. I’m absolutely heartbroken and every day when I’m alone I cry. I truly understand your pain. I too am struggling to get the image of her lying on the floor cold she had clearly passed away a few hours before we found her. I lay on the floor with her holding her cold body tight, trying to get her warm. Just writing this breaks me all over again. This is the only place where I feel people understand the depth of my grief
Hello Bluenun12,
I am so sorry for your loss. It is truly the hardest thing ever to have to go through. I feel you pain and loss. In these early days of loss we always worry about everyone around us and we forget about our own feelings. I lost my daughter Laura 2 years, 3 months and 22 days ago. Not a day goes by I do not feel the pain and sadness. But some moments the sun does come out and the sorrow is not so great. Unfortunately there is no right or wrong way of coping with everything. Be kind to your self ask for help and if you want to be alone and silent that’s ok too. I think as mums we take on everyone else’s grief and we become overloaded. My thoughts and prayers are with you in these early stages. 