My daughter lauren suddenly passed away on 29th November 2024
Shes 32 with 2 children 10 and 2
She rang me saying she had a pain in her chest i told her to ring an ambulance, 9 minutes later she had passed away with a heart attack,she hadnt felt ill, i was messaging her at 11.30pm the night before. I was going to see her and take the children to school,
Shes had to have an autopsy as its a sudden death,
That has showed nothing so far shes now having samples sent to london, this can take up to 12 wks
Ive now got an interim death certificate, but still no reason why, how,
Im beside myself with grief im not coping well at all.
It does not Make sense, i cant accept it i miss her terribly 
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I’m so sorry for the loss of your daughter Lauren, @Denkev - it sounds like it has been such a shock to you. Not having any answers can make it all the harder.
You are not alone. Sadly, many of our members have experienced the death of their child and will understand some of what you’re going through. There’s a really supportive thread here for people whom have lost an adult child which you may find comforting to read:
You might also want to reach out to the The Compassionate Friends support families who have lost a child of any age. They have a grief companion scheme where you can get 1-1 support from another bereaved parent. You can call them on 0345 123 2304.
I’m sure someone will be along to offer their support, but I just wanted to share those links with you and let you know that you are not alone.
Seaneen
Hi I am sorry to hear of the loss of your daughter, Lauren.
Sadly, your experience echos mine. I lost my beautiful daughter Gemma age 34 on 21st July 2024. Gemma has two beautiful boys age 2 and 5. Gemma went to bed, she wasn’t unwell and didn’t wake up when her youngest came into the bedroom just after midnight. Her partner realised something was up. He rang an ambulance and stated CPR. The paramedics worked on Gem for 2 hours but couldn’t bring her back. When we got to the hospital they had stopped working on Gem. They said they had done all they could but couldn’t bring her back. Gemma was a healthy mother of two little boys. There were no signs that she was unwell.
Due to Gemma’s death being sudden they also had to do a post mortem and we had to wait 10-12 weeks for the full outcome. The results said Gemma died of heart failure due to a blocked artery. There were no signs that Gem had anything wrong. It was so sudden and still doesn’t make any sense. I am so sorry you are also experiencing this.
How awful im so sorry,
Why does this happen, its just not right 
I cant sleep at night waiting for find out the results it tears me apart 
If its congenital and ive done this to her ill never forgive myself.
Her funeral is on the 17th January,
Shes at the funeral home bow so im going to see her on 27th December ive missed her so much,
I send your family condolences
I am so sorry you are also having to experience this pain. I hope you get the results back quickly to help explain what has happened to your daughter Lauren.
I am still trying to process what has happened. It still doesn’t make sense to me how this can happen to my daughter who was healthy. Gemma was such a beautiful young woman, an amazing mummy to her two boys. My Gem was beautiful inside and out and I miss her so much. it feels so cruel and it is so painful.
I am sending you much love and strength to you and your family.
Its gut wrenching the feeling isnt it, one day im so angry another day i cant get out of bed, just cry all day,
Will i feel like this forever i just want to be with her 
I am so sorry. It is so painful and so exhausting If I’m honest I don’t know if it ever gets easier. The thought of living without my daughter feels unbearable. I have been doing a lot of reading around grief. Trying to understand how I can live with it as I can’t bear living without my daughter. I also needed to know I was not going crazy. From what I have read, we learn to try and navigate a life around it. I have read that the pain can ease over time, but we will always have times when we will feel it, some days deeper than others, but we learn to try and manage it the best we can. I have started to have some days when the pain feels more bearable, but it is still very raw for me. I love my two grandchildren and I keep telling myself if Gem was here she would be telling me that I need to live to help care for the boys, so I am trying to take one day at a time. Small steps. I try not to focus on too much and I am thankful I have the boys to give me some focus. People tell you to be kind to yourself, I know you have to try and do this but some days it can feel harder to do this. I try and do little things for myself. I am sorry, I don’t think anything I can say can ease the pain for you, it is truly the worse thing ever and is unbearable. We are having to learn to live a life without the person we love, we are living the unimaginable . I hope you have a good support network around you. I am so sorry you are experiencing this as well. Please know you are not on your own. I had a look at the link for compassionate friends this week and there are some helpful information from other’s parents who have lost their child. I know it doesn’t take away our pain, but it does help I feel to know that other parents have managed to navigate around theirs grief and find ways to carry on and to honour their beautiful child’s life. It is ok not to feel ok, and if you need to have a day in bed that is ok. I hope this does not cause you any more pain to read. I am so sorry you are experiencing this.