My daughter died 18th months after her dad with the same cancer-Glioblastoma Multiforme. She died aged 15 on the 27th May 2019.
How on earth do i mark her 21st? I can’t have a party because she not here to take part. As a family we have gone for dinner every year just about. Has anyone been in this position or has any ideas i could consider? TIA x
I’m so sorry to hear your daughter, @Banana21. I’m sure someone who has been there will be along to share their thoughts.
You might also want to have a read of our coping with important dates support page. It has some ideas on how you might want to mark the day.
Take good care and keep reaching out,
Seaneen
Thank you.
Dear Banana 21
How difficult it must be, perhaps you could plant 21 small rose bushes if you have a garden ? Or if you are arty, have photos duplicated of your daughter and make them into the shape of a 2 and 1 and get it framed? Alternatively, a coffee morning in her name with donations to cancer research? I wish you as easy a day as is possible, much love to you
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@HOLLIE1988 Some great ideas there. I do have a small garden so the flowers would be a really nice idea. Thank you. Love and peace to you.
Our 33yr old daughter passed away 9 weeks ago. We are utterly heartbroken. Just to get us out of the house we went to a small garden centre and bought cerise plants to have in our garden where she lived yo soak in the sun and sit with her beloved dogs. We bought the plants went to the car and cried our eyes out. But I am so glad we have bought the plants to remember our beautiful daughter who liked wearing cerise pink.
We too have her birthday coming up but not sure what to do, our daughter is not here to share it with us.
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Thats a lovely way to remember your daughter, i hope as the plants grow and change so will your grief. Im a spiritual person, i believe they show us signs that they are around us. Take care of yourselves x
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We ended up having family and a couple of her friends round. Had food from the chinese takeaway for everyone then we did a balloon release while all singing happy birthday to her. Listened to her songs she picked for her own funeral and shared memories etc.
What else can you do tbh
I think you and your family should still go out to dinner. My daughter would have been 24 on June 25th this year. We lost her suddenly and unexpectedly in January after a period of illness. We went for a picnic for her birthday at the spot where her ashes are scattered and I scattered forget me not seeds which have started to germinate. We carry her with us in everything we do.