I losted my mom in june 2024 she had a compromised blood and immune system for over 5 years she was had blood transfusions but in may they admitted her to hospital and she died within 2 weeks the day before she went into hospital we was out shopping and a coffee within two days in hospital they said they would try everything for her but there was only so much they could put her through I was absolutely devastated I had to keep this to myself …I’m a only child my age is 62 me and mom and dad have always been close . Anyway mom
pass away and my 89 year old dad moved in on the first day she went in to hospital and hasn’t been home yet . I love him to bits but he has taken his toll on the house we have no space from one another I don’t feel I have been able to mourn my mom yet . He is a demand man and at time he picks on my husband for having a beer or a sleep even when my hubby cough he tuts at him . There is so much going on if he is having a bad day he walks out of my house and walks back to his own house he is a 89 year old man making a 20 minute walk back home . I feel
Like I have a teenage son again . I don’t want to mention these things to him as he is a very broken man confused what’s happened to him . But I need to mourn x I feel like I’m a selfish daughter I love my dad and only want the best for him he doesn’t talk and tell me what he wants and needs
Hello @Coxy ,
I can see that you’re new to the community, so I wanted to say that I am so sorry for the loss of your mom that brings you here.
I’m sure someone will be along to offer their support, but I wanted to share a few Sue Ryder resources with you that may help right now.
- Our Grief Guide self-help platform which has information, resources and advice to help you through your grief
- Our Grief Coach text service, which sends you personalised text support via SMS
- Our free Online Bereavement Counselling which is held via video chat
- Our Bereavement Information pages which can walk you through what you are going through.
Thank you again for sharing – please keep reaching out and know that you are not alone.
Take care,
Alex