Hi Im new to this site i found it through a bit of googling. My grandad passed away in September after having cancer for 2 years. SInce then nothing has felt the same my dad seems to be pretending the whole thing hasnt happened he is just focused on work. My nan has talked about moving its something she was going to do with my grandad but they decided it wasnt the right time as he was having chemo. Now it seems for sure that my nan will move she would like to have a flat. I find that hard as they have always lived there to me thats their house the one i would point out to my friends on school trips. The same house we would walk to in the summer with our bikes when me and my brother were younger.
My question is
When will things get better?
Hello @Poodle,
I can see that you’re new to the community, so I wanted to say that I am so sorry for the loss of your grandad that brings you here. It’s understandable you’re finding the thought of your nan moving away from a house full of memories so hard.
I’m sure someone will be along to offer their support, but I wanted to share a few Sue Ryder resources with you that may help right now.
- Our Grief Guide self-help platform which has information, resources and advice to help you through your grief
- Our Grief Coach text service, which sends you personalised text support via SMS
- Our free Online Bereavement Counselling which is held via video chat
- Our Bereavement Information pages which can walk you through what you are going through.
You might also find our coping with the loss of a grandparent page helpful to read.
Thank you again for sharing – please keep reaching out and know that you are not alone.
Take care,
Seaneen
Hi i havent been on here for a few days as i have been finding things hard i struggle with getting to sleep i feel like i have too much going around in my head.
Hi poodle
I feel this deeply.
I have struggled with sleep for a very long time but more so since my grandad passed away on Christmas Eve 2024.
I like the quiet of the night more than how loud it is in the day.
I’ve been trying some self care whilst everyone is asleep
Maybe you could try some to?
What kind of things did you like prior?
Simple things like reading or making yourself a hot water bottle for comfort maybe.
I like just staring at the stars and talking about… well everything and nothing really.
I have stressed so much about needing sleep but maybe I just need peace right now so I am trying to embrace the quiet time to myself.
I hope you find some peace
Hi. Thanks for your ideas. I sometimes listen to music and read as I find it distracts me from all my thoughts. I have also found that writing letters to my grandad helps me I keep them in a little box. It makes me feel like I am still talking to him if that makes sense. Maybe you could try if you wanted to.
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That’s a great idea.
I have been writing poems but I will definitely write him a letter. There is so much I want to say to him just to keep him updated on the things that have happened.
It’s been 9 weeks now and the pain cuts very deep still.
I never even got to write his Christmas card and give it to him this year (he passed Xmas Eve). It just feels like unfinished business. (I know I probably sound mad- I feel like I am in honesty).
Thanks for your reply.
I hope you can find some comfort in something and remember to take care of yourself.