First of all, I hope every single person on this site is well and has a bit more positivity in their hearts from speaking with others going through the same thing. I know it’s helping me in these painful early days. Sending a lot of love to all of you tonight!
I lost my big sister and it hurts so much. It doesn’t seem real and I think I see her wherever I go. All I want is to hear her laugh or feel the warmth of her hug one more time.
Hello @JWebber87,
I’m so sorry for the loss of your sister. Thank you for sharing this with us. I’m just giving your thread a gentle, “bump” for you - hopefully someone will have some thoughts to share.
Take good care,
Alex
Take care of yourself xx
I am very sorry for your loss. No matter how far away your sister lived, it sounds like you were very close to her emotionally. I think we can all relate to the silent scream, where we are trying to put on a brave face for others but are in turmoil inwardly. It is very early days for you and difficult when you don’t have family you can confide in. Do you have close friends who you can talk to? At least you are now here on this forum where other grieving people will give you lots of moral support.
Hi, hope you are ok?
This forum is helping me a lot. Having the support of others is so important right now. My wife, friends and work colleagues have been amazing, but I need time on my own to fully process what has happened and try to cope day by day.
It will take time. I am at the 25 week point now and the relentless sobbing has eased, although I still think about my son most of the time and cry for him throughout the day. You might find you grieve differently from your partner and family. I certainly did and I found that quite difficult. It was good to discover this forum and to talk to others who were going through the same thing as me and at the same time.
I’m so sorry about your son! It just constantly hurts. I put a strong face on in front of my kids -just got home from a nice day out, the second I got out the car and came into the house I could feel the tears coming. Whenever I stop, whenever I have time to think……
Yes, that’s exactly what it’s like. Nowadays I can control the tears more, so tend to cry in private. Crying is supposed to release the tension, but I’m not so sure. It just seems never ending. How are your children? Did they know your sister well?
My sister lived in America so my kids only ever met her a couple of times and it’s been a while since they saw her last so they are “fine”.
Have you got a good support system in place to help you?
My daughter came to stay for 2 weeks when we were first bereaved. She was the one who encouraged us to eat and to get out for the occasional walk, even when I didn’t really want to do anything except hide under a fleece and weep. We had great support from my sister in law and my brother, and there have been some very kind friends and neighbours, as well as online friends. As has been said in other posts, sometimes you get support from unexpected places. People who were maybe on the periphery of your life are the very ones who step forward to help. I had 6 free telephone counselling sessions which were arranged through the funeral parlour. You might be able to do the same. Otherwise it is difficult to get counselling through the NHS, I have found, although of course you can pay for a private counsellor. There are loads of private counsellors around, but I’m not sure how you would choose the right one for you. Overall I think I have had the most support from this forum, because if you’re feeling upset, you can just type out some words here at any time of the day and someone who is in the same situation and understands how you are feeling will reply.
I totally get where you’re coming from. The support I have had from friends and others has been amazing, but this forum, I think, it’s helping just the same, if not more. I feel for every single person on here, I feel for you and your family losing someone so special to your hearts.
Having people to talk to who are going through very similar emotions and looking for that thread of hope on here is giving me comfort. Just this conversation with you is giving me purpose tonight, so I thank you for that. I know we have only started talking a few hours ago, but I am a great listener and always here if you need someone to chat with or just to listen.
Many thanks for that. Do keep posting your thoughts. I wish you a peaceful night’s rest.
You too. Sleep well