My husband passed away suddenly i came home and found him we were together almist 27 years he was 51 November 2024 i miss him constantly and feel so alone and lost how do you get through this 2months 1 week and 1 day today people message to ask how im doing how do you reply to that when it feels like my heart is broken and every morning i wake up it hits me and another day to get through
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I can feel your pain, I cannot get the image of finding my husband asleep forever in his chair, it haunts me constantly, his lovely face looked peaceful, but the shock of him dying at 58, and leaving us, so suddenly is so painful, I am finding it increasingly hard to get through every day. I question why it happened to such a good man, who loved his family so much, it’s hard for me to go on without him .
I send you my love xx
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What a terrible shock for you both, I’m so sorry for your losses. My husband passed 10 weeks ago aged 56, so many men dying so young it’s just unbelievable. I’m just trying to get through one day at a time, but it’s a constant pain in your heart isn’t it and I have trouble focussing on anything, it’s like I’m looking for him all the time. I listened to an audio book called The Grieving Brain on audible, it did help me understand that all the things I’m feeling are absolutely normal and hopefully in time the rawness of these feelings will ease. It’s just the loss of a future together isn’t it and feeling so sad that he will miss so much. Sending love to everyone on this awful journey x
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I am sorry you had to go through this.
My fiancé past away early morning 1 month and 1 day ago at 26. It’s agony. I know people don’t know what to say and are trying to be nice but I have grown to hate the how are you question. I have given up to be honest and settle with I am ok. But how could I possible be ok. The silence is deafening and days feel so long.
Our toddler is the only thing keeping me going. I just try to set goals of get him dressed, fed, try a walk. I hope you have family/ friends around to help support you xx
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I feel so sorry for you and your child, such a young age to have to suffer this awful loss. I am 66 and struggling to carry on, it must be so hard for you, you’re right, the silence is deafening, and the emptiness is all around the house.
People who have not lost someone they love so much, cannot possibly know how you feel, my employer ( I have retired, but do some days to fill in for holidays) he asked me how I was, and I said I was alright, he said ‘really’ and I said ‘no I am not okay, but its just what we say, isn’t it !’ because we feel we cannot keep telling people how bad we really feel, its easier to pretend.
I send you my condolences, and hope that you have people there for you, much love to you and your baby xx
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Thank you. It has been so difficult. Your employer sounds understanding, I think the people who really know us will know we aren’t. I am sorry you have to go through this. It makes the world seem so cruel. And even with a room full of people it’s still so lonely, it has been comforting using this site and speaking to people who understand more x
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I understand how you feel, I lost my husband too cancer in November, he was 50.
You are not alone on here and we all understand how you feel.
Sorry about your husband its just heartbreaking x
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So sorry about your lost. I understand how you feel. December 18th will be exactly 4 years since my husband passed. Reading the word of God and listening to messages really helped me in a way. That has always been my source of strength. Now I try to engage in activities I love to occupy me. I won’t say its easy but you will be fine just keep your faith and hope alive in God.
Thank you, I miss him everyday, its been 16 weeks tomorrow since I lost him, I’m upset because he could of had a chance with chemo, but the hospital kept sending him home every time without doing anything.
We found out 22nd October, 3 days after our 22nd wedding anniversary, 4 weeks later he passed away in a hospice. I wasn’t ready to say goodbye.
He had turned 50 in the June.
I feel like ive been robbed and cheated of 30 or 40 more years with him.
You never expect to be a widow at 51.
He was strong healthy welsh made who never got sick except for a cold now and again.
Sorry for your loss almist 2.5 months on sunday, i wake up everyday with the realisation i have to get through another day the days are hit and miss the evenings follow the same pattern cry listen to music/tv then go to sleep drained
I feel let down my husband had just turned 51 and was seeing a nurse weekly as he had problems with his legs i now know that was because he had undetected heart problems which the dr should of been aware of and sent him For tests etc another nhs failure x
My husband was 51 nov. 2024 i feel cheated constantly sad drained i cant even look ahead im just doing a day at a time.
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It feels like youve been cheated out of a future doesn’t it.
Im so sorry for your loss, I understand how you feel
Like you Ive hit rock bottom and just want to give up.
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It does sorry for your loss and everyone else, its hard to see ahead just want to stop feeling like this i received the hard copies of the certificate yesterday i still havent been able to register my husbands passing as samples are with the pathologist for genetic testing i had no say in this it apparently could take months
I looked online for support groups there is one called jolly dollies (jd) for short they are a national group there are different groups in all areas not sure if your aware of this but may be helpful its £20 a year they organise meet ups, trips etc you can sign up to there fizz benefits which gives you money off/cashbacks on lots of shops x
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Im so sorry that you’ve not been able to register your husband’s death yet.
Hopefully you won’t have to wait long.
I will look into into the jolly dollies one day, at the moment I’m not upto doing anything.
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I get that i joined and struggling to open an email or respond
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