My husband jacket and coat is still on the chair in the dining room and all his clothes and shoe where he left them 11 weeks and 1 day ago. Not sure if it is helping me or making it worse but then again I don’t want to get rid of anything 
as losing him was bad enough 
going on holiday next week with my son daughter and grandsons and it’s the first time without my husband and I’m not sure I’m ready 
but my son needs a break 
and I’m hoping it will help him 
but it could make it harder because never stayed with anyone else before. Thinking of you all and sending hugs 
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I opened our wardrobe yesterday, with the intention of sorting some of N’s clothes out for the charity shop.
I took out 4 shirts, put them straight back.
His wallet, shoes, slippers are still where he left them.
The time isn’t right for me to move them.
It’s been 8 months, and if they’re still there in another 8 months, so be it!
You’ll know when you’re ready…
I hope you do find some moments of happiness whilst you’re away x
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Hi my husband passed away 15 and a half months ago I have a memory box so I’ve put his wedding ring, glasses, brush and odds and ends in it plus photos his clothes are still in his wardrobe and I have know intention of moving them as they give me comfort I have sorted out his t shirts it broke my heart and I cried for ages but I’ve put them back in the drawers I think everyone is different and what evers best for you that helps you cope you do we now have to think what’s best for us unfortunately take care
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10 months, and John’s fleece jacket is hanging by the stairs. I always put my arms round it and hug it when I go upstairs.
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My husband’s belongings are all where he left them too. I can’t imagine being strong enough to move anything yet.
I think he might need them!
(Im definitely off to the men in white coats)
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My partners belongings are still where he left them. Hos motorbike boots by the front door his helmet in the same with his gloves inside. His clothes in the drawers and his coats in our cupboard. I feel the same he may need them and i think until im able to accept he is not coming home i will leave them there.
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Same here. His 1976 ‘University of Southern California’ T shirt he wore while doing his excercise routine on the day before he suddenly died, 3 months ago, is still where I can see it, where he left it. He told me it was wearing out on that morning. All his clothes are still in drawers and wardrobes. I think i’ll never part from some of his favourite clothes. I’m glad I’m not the only one. 
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Until two days ago my wife’s makeup was still on the bathroom window sill after 4 months. . It only got moved because I was cleaning the bathroom, all her other clothes and possessions are where she left them.
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I really think it is one of hardest decisions as to when to sort and decide what to do with clothes and possessions but i guess we will know when the time is right. To me its like im getting rid of him and all i want is for him to be here with me. Sending big hugs to everyone on the horrible journey.
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I lost my husband in may ,I still have things around the house that he left there and I’m not ready to move things yet. I don’t think there’s a right or wrong if you ever want to move them I suppose we will know the right time,we are guardians for our grandson he’s 8 and he and I have just come back from
Holiday, it was bittersweet but I think
A good thing especially
For our grandson and did give me time to get away from pressures of admin and jobs that have to be done. I hope you all can have a nice time together and that you will have some positive moments and laughs like we did about what my husband used to do that made us laugh on our holidays xx. Thinking of you all.
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It’s 20 months since my husband passed. His dressing gown still hangs in same place. I have giving a few things to charity shop but most of his clothes are still in same place. Maybe another day I will feel strong enough to donate some items to charity shop. I take each day as it comes.
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I took 2 t-shirts to the Oxfam shop yesterday but I still have a whole rail of his clothes in the wardrobe. This week I put away the funeral service sheet which I had displayed in the kitchen since March. I thought about putting his drumsticks away, they are on the hall table, but decided I like them there.
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