It is early days for you. My husband died suddenly 3 months ago - I am still waiting to find out why. All you can do is get through breath by breath, day by day. Take support and help from wherever you can. I understand your thoughts though - they are much like mine, even now. Sending hugs
Thank you for your reply. Waiting so long for the PM must be agonising for you. I just need to know why my husband who was fit and well just went to bed and died.
Sending a big hug to you
My wonderful husband drowned in November and I was there for the attempted resuscitation. We had only been in our new house in a new area for 10 months. Now don’t feel safe.
I am just just trying to keep very busy to numb the pain. Volunteering at vaccination hub at least makes me feel useful and have some purpose. Staying with mum at moment as can’t bear to be on my own. Don’t want to be a burden or nuisance to the family. At the moment just feel it would be better to be with him.
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I so want to be in the arms of my husband. Each day that I’m not is harder rather than easier. I just keep plodding through each day for my kids. I had a life - a full, wonderful life - now it is an existence. I seem to be getting more exhausted the further on I go. Don’t know where to get any more energy from.
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Dear Jenb
There are no words that I can say except how sorry I am. The feeling of insecurity I can associate with and I think from reading others posts that it is all part of the grief process. I have never lived alone until my husband died and now, well I can lie in bed and hear every little noise. I will be honest thoughts of being with my husband filled my head constantly in the early months but I have some relief from them now.
The sudden loss of our loved ones give us no time to prepare, no goodbye. The shock lingers for God only knows how long. I can’t remember most of what I did in the first few months - just existed hour by hour. Life is not much easier but I continue as we have two little grandsons and two adult kids - I see the grief in their faces every day and could not be the cause of any further pain.
Keep posting on this forum - people are here to listen.
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@jenb I am sorry you are going through this. My husband died suddenly in October. It’s a massive shock and a massive trauma.
I got counselling, medication ( anti depressants and diazepam/valium) and also I’m staying with my mum. its hard. Maybe you should also try your doctor for some help in my opinion. it seems like they can’t help I know but the medication helps sleep come and shaking stop to give some relief. Speaking to doctor whilst not pleasant at the time was one of the most helpful things I did.
take care x
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That sums it up perfectly. My thoughts are with you.
just take everyday as it comes every hour every minute every second if you have to it will be 4 years on 21st dec for me and im still struggling he also died suddenly and was away from home he was found alone in his flat so i feel guilty i wasnt there although they told me it wouldnt have mattered if i was there my head wont let me accept this as i will never no i just keep thinking did he no was he scared i just keep torchering myself all the time x
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