My husband died on 22 July. I don’t know how to carry on. I feel like I don’t want to live anymore. I have been to doctors who gave pills. I don’t know if they could give any more
I dont seem able to do anything, I sit looking at the TV all day.
I feel unable to go out on my own. I should mow the grass but can’t.
I have a son and his family who live a way away. I don’t drive. They will come if I want, but I find that hard too. My sister comes to take me for coffee couple of times a week.
I’ve been going on for ages so I’m going to stop now. Sorry
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Hi i am so sorry for your loss but feel your pain greatly, i was widowed 7 years ago a d now mynpartner of almost 4 years took hos own life on the 1st aug , always here if you need to chat 
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Thank you so much for replying. I really feel for you.
How are you managing? Do you have to force yourself to do things?
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Not coping at all, can make sense of why when we were so happy together, he did have a lot from his past that would eat away at him and in his past he did try twice before but failed. My emotions are through the roof and all the gp will give me is a few diazepam ,they say its early days and raw and dont just want to put me on tablets, i wanted to scream at them to give me something to help me focus but hey ho not to bed at present. How are you coping and only if you want to chat about your loss x
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@Mitden I’m so sorry for your loss.
Please give yourself time and permission to grieve… it’s not yet been a month since you lost your partner.
It’s ok to sit and watch TV… your mind will be processing things behind the scenes, so to speak.
We all grieve in different ways, so however you find yourself, that’s right for you. Don’t feel guilty about not doing stuff, the most important thing right now is to look after yourself.
Eat a little each day, stay hydrated, a short walk or a small job each day if you feel up to it.
When you start to feel stronger, then think about the bigger stuff. Ask your family if they’ll help with stuff you don’t feel up to. They will want to support you but might not know how.
I do understand that asking for help can be really difficult though.
And keep coming back here to talk… we’ll hold you up the best we can.
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Mitden, are you sure you’re not me? The love of my life, my husband died 18th June and apart from the couple of weeks organising funeral and sorting “legal stuff” I’ve done nothing. I can’t be bothered. I’ve used the Olympics as an excuse. What’s the point of anything? I’m lucky I have family close by but actually I don’t want them intruding on MY grief.
Miamoo, so sad your husband took his own life, looking for answers and not finding them must be awful.
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Thank you for replying. It is good to realise you’re not alone. People say will come out the other side but at the moment I can’t see how. And it will never been the same again, there was just him and me.
I can’t eat much, are you the same? Tomorrow have to go to the funeral directors.
I am so grateful for you all to be there. I think I will be writing more but it’s hard at the moment. Thank you all dozydi, miamoo scubadolly thinking of you xxx
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Mitden the ONE day I didn’t cry was at his funeral. I had a celebrant who read my words, the music husband and I wanted and motorcyclists riding behind him. It was glorious and so him. You do the funeral your way not how others think it should be. Now I’m crying for it’s the last thing you can ever do to show your love and respect for him.
Food is no pleasure, life is no pleasure. We used to do cryptic crosswords together - can’t be bothered, i understand you completely.
Thinking of you.
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@Mitden
You will get thru hun…
I know it seems impossible right now but somehow, you just keep going🤷🏼♀️
I’m not going to lie & say it’s easy… It isn’t!
There will be people who pretend to be helpful but they’re not….
You’ll find out who your real friends are too.
I’m over a year on now & my life is completely unrecognisable from the one before July 23.
Trying to be kind to myself & look forward👍🏻
My husband would be so so angry at me for being maudlin so I keep going for him. He had such a zest for life & loved me infinitely💖
I hope you can somehow find some peace each day - be it minute by minute or hour by hour x
Take care, be kind to yourself & hold on to the memories x
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