Hello everyone,
I’m sorry to see that there’s been some disagreements on this thread - please know we take these sorts of things seriously. I have taken some time to read through each post - I need to let you all know that I have made a number of edits to several posts, in line with our community guidelines, and because the community is a safe, supportive and non-judgemental space, whatever your thoughts, feelings and experiences.
As a reminder, please see the below extracts from our guidelines:
Be supportive
Many people using this community will be going through a difficult time and are here for help from us and from you.
Keep it friendly
We are a diverse community, we ask everyone to be respectful. We take a strong stance against hate speech, bullying, discrimination, racism, sexism, and homophobia.
…Don’t post anything that could cause upset or that treats anyone unfairly… Be respectful and don’t post personal attacks.
It is fine to disagree with someone, but do so respectfully and concentrate on disagreeing with the opinion without attacking the person who posted it. Do not use posts to air personal grievances about other users.
As these guidelines state, we are a diverse community which means everyone’s experiences are different - if you are going to respond to a post, please make sure you are only doing so respectfully, without personally attacking another member.
Finally, thank you @TL79 for starting this thread and for bravely sharing some of your story. You are welcome here - we do hope you find the community helpful and supportive as you process all that is going on at the moment, for you and your Husband. Thank you also to those members who have taken the time to thoughtfully support and advise TL79.
I will now reopen the thread - we will continue to monitor the situation and take further action if we need to. Please think about the impact of your words before you post something - if you have any concerns at all, you can use the 
icon (below each post) to report posts/concerns to the Online Community Team.
Please take care and please be kind,
Megan