I am in the exact same position as you right now, reading your post made me cry but almost feel slightly better that it’s not just me. It’s awful, I can’t do anything right, he criticises everything from the dinner I make every night to my shitty cleaning! I work 2 days a week but do everything else, shopping, cleaning, his accounts, banking etc. He thinks I do nothing. Our sex life has gone from him being obsessed for the last 30 years to next to nothing. The love for me has gone, he doesn’t look at me with the same eyes anymore, it’s like he hates me. But after nearly 2 years after his dad died of MND nothing is getting better and I am starting to change in myself (my 17 year old and my close friends have confirmed this). I love him to bits and just want my soul mate back but whatever I do seems to annoy him more. I’m at the end of my tether right now 
