My late husband

Coping with bereavement
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Its 3 months since my husband Nigel died, I managed to get him home which he dearly wanted unfortunately not for long he died within 2 days ,I am slowly adapting to thos new normal its just although he was pretty peaceful as he died with me beside him just before he breathed his last he opened his eyes looked at me and said help then died its haunting me that he was frightened

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Hello @Zvickyanne,

I’m part of the Online Community team and I can see that you are new to the community - I’d like to thank you for bravely starting this thread and sharing how you are feeling. I’m so sorry to hear about your husband. Most community members have sadly experienced the death of a loved one and so will understand some of what you are going through.

I’m sure someone will be along to offer their support. In the meantime, you may wish to look at these Sue Ryder resources which might be helpful.

You might also want to look at WAY Up: http://www.way-up.co.uk/

I really hope you find the community helpful and a good source of support and I also hope you feel you can access more support should you need it.

Thank you again for sharing – please keep reaching out and know that you are not alone.

Take care,

Alex

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My husband passed away in may last year. We too managed to get him home and we had 10 days with him. I hold on to that as he said his worst nightmare was to die in hospital. I do find that my mind can replay those last days more regularly and clearly than some longer term memories from our 42 years together. I guess because death is so traumatic and dealing with the loss is all consuming. I have feelings of guilt and what ifs but it’s because we love them so much and just want to change where we are. Your feelings are so normal. I think the important thing is to recognise those feelings are ok

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