My losses

Coping with bereavement
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I’m definitely at the end of my tether, no matter what I do things never work out. I’m sure I was put on this earth for people to wipe their feet on.

I’m 55, live alone no friends at all as I have moved away from where I was born. I just a sad lonely (internally) miserable bleeder as people call in a victim.

I lost my son of 16 and a half months to an accident
I the lost my dad
My sister then took her own life
My very good friend took his life
The I had a long court battle with the hospital, not for money but for something else.
I then lost my uncle
Then lost my other sister to a brain aneurysm
Then my nephew passed
Then April this year I lost my mum.

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Oh my word. I don’t know what to say! I can understand why you think nothing goes right for you. That’s a lot of losses to face. But give yourself credit, you are surviving them. I’m sorry you’re going through all this. You have been heard though.

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I have had three attempts at suite to date but I even failed them

I’m am so tired of waking up

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Hi @Sidv,

I’m so sorry to hear about your losses. It sounds as though things are very tough and you are going through a very difficult time.

It sounds like you’re looking for support and I’m glad that you’ve been able to talk about how you’re feeling here. We know that a lot of people experience suicidal thoughts when they are grieving. We have a video about it here which you might find helpful:

https://griefguide.sueryder.org/support/suicide

There is lots of other support out there, and I would really encourage you to reach out and speak to someone about how you are feeling.

  • If these thoughts of suicide become overwhelming, please call 999 or contact your GP for an emergency appointment immediately.
  • Samaritans are available 24/7 to talk about anything that you are worried about in confidence. You can call them on 116 123.
  • Shout are contactable by text, 24/7. You can text REMEDY to 85258 and talk to them about anything.

Sue Ryder offers an online bereavement counselling service. This is a free service and sessions are held via video chat so you can attend from home. There’s more information about this service here: sueryder.org/counselling.

You can also make an appointment with your GP and ask to be referred to counselling or other support services in your area.

You deserve care and support so please, @Sidv, get in touch with one of these services.

Take care,

Alex

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Thankyou Alex

But i have tried numerous ideals such as cbt, mindfulness, ect, have a secondment worker come twice a week to go for a coffee… I hear you of suicide thoughts but no matter where I am they come through, I even had the counselling for grief not sure of the name.

I still can’t/won’t let my family go, hence why I will stay as I am…which to me is Horrifying.

Thanks