My Mam died suddenly on the 29th of January. I was closest to her and it’s shook my world. I’ve arranged the full funeral which is today and I’m absolutely dreading it, especially the line up. Any guidance to get me through the day would be appreciated. I’ve never experienced pain like this. I can’t stop crying. I’m trying to be strong for my kids but it’s just so exhausting and sad.
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Hi. I can absolutely sympathise with you. I lost my mum 28th January. Her funeral is next week. I really have no idea how I’m going to do it. I keep dreaming of her. Crying at the mere mention of her. Have you found any ways of getting through this because I could really do with some tips. I will be thinking of you today. I’m so sorry for your loss. It’s a pain that’s so deep and physically hard that I never anticipated it x
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Hi @Leonie1
So sorry for your loss. I went through this last year. On the day of the funeral I was very anxious about how it would be and how I would cope. In the end I tried to not to put any pressure on myself and told myself the day would happen and I would be as I was. I think I was afraid of crying and becoming a sobbing mess. I wasn’t but shed tears as expected. The funeral directors were so kind and took care of the family really well which helped. I was using bach flower remedy to help with the anxiety. I got through with tears and hugs from friends and family. Thinking of you today and hope the day goes as well as it can for you take care of yourself as best as you can 
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I’m so sorry, I have no guidance as I’m waiting for a date for my Mam’s funeral, but I hope you have people around you who love you and can support you. I’m sure that you will do your Mum proud, however you manage to get through the day. Sending lots of love to you xx
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Im so sorry for your loss.
Just be yourself as that is what your mum would’ve wanted, she loved you for you.
I buried my daughter Elizabeth aged 31yrs in May 2025 and I too was dreading her funeral but it was a lovely service and was attended by lots and lots of people which i wasn’t expecting. I cried buckets but its showing the love for your loved one.
Thinking of you all.
Take care
Sharon x
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Thanks everyone. It was so hard and I broke down as soon as I got out of the car and couldn’t stop crying or shaking. The wake was lovely and everyone commented on how lovely the service was. Today I have absolutely crashed and felt the most numb & exhausted I have ever felt 
my eyes are swollen from crying so much.
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Hi Annabel you’re welcome to message me. Not that I have any golden nuggets of advice but it’s comforting knowing we aren’t the only ones going through this
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