Can anyone give me some advice please. Iam dealing with my mums grief. It is so raw i do not have time for my own at the moment. Iam numb because iam so worried about her. My dad passed away on the 10th of February 2025. Im an only child . I just dont know what to say to help her. She has no friends and doesnt go out of the house unless she really has to. I know about every moment of her grief as she tells me. I really dont know what to do for the best .
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Dear 4646
I’m so sorry that you have lost your dad.
Also, that your mum is struggling so. Would she agree to bereavement counselling? She needs someone else to offload onto to give you some space for your own grief.
And exercise can be very helpful - would she walk with you? Even round the block a few times a week.
Does she have photos up of your dad? When my husband died, a widow friend advised a happy photo in every room in the house, and that helped. There probably isn’t anything you can say to help your mum. Just being there regularly and helping out practically will make a huge difference.
Stay in touch and very best wishes.
Thankyou so much for replying. Your kind words brought tears. I think the counselling is a good idea i have talked about that to her. I look up handling grief ideas all the time for her. Nothing helps and now im so tired of looking and i hate the word grief. I have leaned on friends to talk to about her but am worried they will think this is all iam. So try and keep it to myself. There is so much pain is this life worrh it i often wonder. Thankyou again
Sue
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