I feel so sad for you all. I hope you get the answers you deserve.
Doesnât sound weird at all. I think weâd all give anything to have one more minute with our mums.
Youâre right, it is like a punch to the stomach. Itâs a real physical pain, I find myself unable to breathe when the realisation hits.
I have a scarf of my mums, smells like her. It does give me comfort if only for a moment.
I was at my mums yesterday and I used some of her moisturising cream and the scent made me feel like she was close. How lovely that you have the scarf. That must be such a comfort. X
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Exactly how I feel I knew sheâd go one day but Iâd hoped that sheâd have had an illness so you can prepare yourself
With us not being able to have the funeral due to coroner and post mortem is just dragging it out if that makes sense
What hurts with me I was told the ward had a cordless phone so you can speak to the patients for 6 hours the day before she died we tried to get nursing staff to answer and they never did even switchboard couldnât get an answer , wanted to know if she wanted me to visit her the following day what she would have wanted taking just to Hearn her voice , then waking up to be told sheâd gone
I think she just gave up the only vision I have of her is strapped to an ambulance chair with a blanket , she even say oh so you later , will you be ok , make sure the cats are shut in, etc
Putting on a brave face is public is ok
Itâs the breaking down alone that isnât ok
I lost my mom on 28th November so unexpectedly. I only lost my dad last March and just cant believe this has happened. Miss her so much already. Been a delay with coroner so we dont even have a cause of death yet. Really struggling seeing all the christmas stuff about and people happy. I know life goes on but right now i just want the world to stop. Not sure what i am expecting from this community but dont want to trouble friends as they all excited for Christmas.
Iâm so sorry to hear about your mum and dad.
Lost my mum on the 22nd so know how it all feels. So many different emotions, but utterly overwhelming sadness that I wonât see my mum again. Ever.
It physically hurts inside when I say that.
Doesnât seem real.
Your friends wonât see it as trouble, reach out to them. None of us can do this alone.
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I have managed to put some Christmas decorations up today, mainly for my youngest. Whatâs sad is, on the side at her home is the Xmas food shopping list. That hurts so much.
Also this sounds crazy but I have just watched the final of âIâm a celebrity get me out of hereâ and I feel so upset as she was excited for it this year and watched the first 3 episodes. I think this is my life now. Always thinking about her, missing her and aching for her.
Im the same. I feel like im stuck. I cant really see any joy in anything and the whole Christmas thing makes it worse. Its very difficult learning to live with grief because ife started to realise thatâs what i have to do, because its not going to just dissappear. It does make me feel slightly less alone when i see comments on here, and we all seem to feel the same way. Xx sending you lotâs of love xx
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I am in the same situation 
lost my Mum week ago
Hi all, I hope youâre all doing as well as you can. I have had my up and downs. Itâll be 7 weeks since my mum passed away on Wednesday and tomorrow is her birthday.
I have recently started replaying her last day and trying to see what I could have done differently or how we could have saved her. Sleep comes restlessly. I am still of off work and due back at the beginning of January but the idea of working gives me anxiety. It just feels that life is back to normal if I go back, when life will never be the same. Until you lose a mum I dont think you understand the pain.
Sorry for rambling, just knew that if anyone would understand it would be someone here x
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