I know it’s part of life and every single one of us will experience it at some point. But my mom died today after such a long brave battle with cancer. Selfishly I am glad she fought for almost 4 yrs. It allowed for so many memories. But I am beat, like drained. I don’t know where to go from here. She was only 65, that’s young. It’s so bitter sweet. I wanted her to be at peace but I would do anything to see her smile again. Tomorrow I face the scenario of telling my children. I am not looking for virtual hugs etc. I need to hear from people that it gets better. It’s so weird, I feel like I am on my own and no-one gets it. But every one experiences this at some point. It’s mental to explain. Much love, x
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@gary81 so sorry for your loss, I’m early in my grieving, mum died 19 days ago. My dad died 24 years ago so I can tell you it does get better but it takes time. Right now I take each day at a time. I listen to myself and if I don’t feel like doing something, I don’t do it. If I want to cry, I cry. I keep sending messages to her phone and keep smelling her clothes. Her funeral was on Wedesday and it really hit me then. Untill that day I was busy organising everything. Now I’m alone and sad. I know I will be better and so will you. Just take it easy. Keep posting here, it helpes me to know I’m not the only one. Wishing you strentgh x
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Hi there, im so so sorry for your loss. I lost my precious mom 3 weeks and 1 day ago and i still dont fully believe it. We told our children 2 days after as they are very young (4 and 2) and it was so hard and so sad. You are not alone. Its the worst thing ever to lose someone so close to you. Sending love and strength to you x
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@Ola13 Thank you for replying to my post. I am sorry to hear about your lose. It’s reassuring for me to know, from your experiences, it does get better in time. I also really appreciated you sharing your coping mechanisms. Thank you
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@Grieving02 Thanks for your message. I am sorry for your lose. Telling my three boys today was difficult. They are 5, 9 and 12. My 12yr old struggled. It broke my heart. It must be so confusing for little people. All they have is happy and positive memories of their granny and that gives me some comfort for them. Take care
Hi I lost my mum beginning of this year a lot you have said I can resonate with I’m on my own to and the thing that I found is that everyone will have to face this at some point. My mum was 85 and had had a good life was independent till the very end I try to take comfort from that I’m also trying to take one day at a time. Good luck always here if you need to chat
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My daughter is 11 and hasn’t really shown any sadness yet, I’m wortied she’s blocking all her feelings. I guess little people grieve differntly. Anyone has similar experience?
@Ola13 it’s a hard one to be honest. Certainly with my oldest boy I reassured him it’s OK and normal to feel sad and cry. I said and will continue to say to all my kids that they can talk about their emotions etc with me at anytime. Personally I don’t want to push it with them but it’s important to me that they are reassured that it’s ok to feel sad and feel confusing emotions but even more important they know they are supported and will be listened too.
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@gary81 yes, I suppose all we can do is let them know we are here if they want to talk or just cry
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