My mum was my bestie my all she was the glue to the family I’m 40 and I just feel lost she passed away 11/3/25 and I don’t no what Todo I’m lost without her I can’t sleep I feel sick bursts off tears then nothing someone tell me how to get thru mother’s day without her please
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Hello @Clarem,
I’m so sorry to hear about your mum. Mother’s Day can be an especially painful time - and often even more so if it’s the first.
Please know that there is lots of support available if you need it. We have advice and support on coping with grief on Mother’s Day:
As well as the online community, we offer a range of online bereavement support services that might be helpful to you. You can explore these at sueryder.org/support.
I’m sure someone will be along to offer their support too. You are not alone.
Take good care,
Seaneen
Hi @Clarem ,
I lost my mum 2 years ago this May and i still miss her everyday. Finding it more difficult at the moment with Mothers Day approaching. Like you, my mum was my best friend and i spent lots of time with her. People say it gets easier, but i don’t think it does, i think its more like you get use to the feeling of the loss/sadness that we feel. My first mothers day without her last year, i ignored it, suppressed my feelings and i think thats why i’m finding it a little more difficult this year. This year, i’m going to place a card and flowers at her wee memorial plaque, go to Costa (her fav place) get two lattes (one for me, one for her) and sit and reminisce and if i cry i cry. Do what feels right for you, there is no right or wrong and last year it felt right for me to push it back, this year though, i’m facing it head on as i have this feeling thats what she’d want me to do.
Sending Hugs. xxx
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Hi @Clarem ,
My mom passed April 2021, sadly, mother’s day highlights the fact she’s not there 
, all I can say is, you do what feels right for you, if you want to do something special for your mum, whether it’s just flowers at her grave, making a special scrapbook, or visiting somewhere that was special to her, if you feel you just want to take time out for yourself, or working to keep busy, that’s ok too. The thing to remember is that it’s just one day a year, we dread it when it’s near, but putting it in the context of, “it’s 1 day, there are 365 days a year, 24 hours a day= 8760 hours a year” that one day will be here & gone before you know it. Sending hugs of support
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Hi Clarem
I haven’t posted before on here I find it comforting reading and relating to other posts
My mum died 1/1/25 and I can really relate to your words Although I have a supportive husband and two daughters and the joy of a recent granddaughter I still feel so lost without my best friend/soul mate life just not the same and grief hits in very big waves The whole of January not a day without tears and really struggle with sleep a lot of the time now feeling emotionally charged about Mother’s Day I still sent a card which helped a bit but not much!
Just sending my best wishes and thoughts to this very sad time and as someone said you cannot relate to anyone’s individual grief but share the healing I like that
I feel my own grief is weird the overwhelming and intense pain is like nothing on some days any little thing triggers something another day I feel numb and nothing
Me and my mum both very spiritual people and she influenced me all things metaphysical and I have had some lovely reassuring and wonderful signs I do accept this is not everyone’s beliefs/thoughts but has definitely helped me
Bev x
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