We lost our lovely Mum on Friday morning. She went into hospital on 12th December, we were called in as we sat down to eat Christmas dinner to be told she wouldn’t be getting better. Me and my Sisters visited her in hospital every day then when she moved to a beautiful hospice we did the same. We were all there when she passed on Friday, we all had time to say everything we wanted to say and she was mostly comfortable. I just feel absolutely empty, numb and don’t know what to do with myself. We’ve gone from driving for an hour to sitting for 8 hours, then driving home for an hour to doing nothing. I, still can’t quite believe we thought she had a stomach bug and 5 weeks later she died. She was 90, had a good life but has left a huge hole in our lives. Thank you for reading, any advice would be greatly appreciated 
@SJ35 SJ35Hi so very sorry to be reading this.It’s one thing that your dear mother had this stomach bug…it’s another thing to be told that she wasn’t going to recover.
Anyone dear to us dying is traumatic..yet when it’s just do unexpected and sudden..nothing can really prepare you for this.I lost my mum a few months ago due a bowel obstruction and within the space of just 2 weeks she was gone..actually deteriorating rapidly within just 24 hours at the end.
Things must be feeling so surreal right now and it must be really hard to process what just happened.Feeling lost,numb and just unsure what to even think,feel or even do are feelings this kind of situation can trigger.I know I had such feelings.
As it was just a few days ago there’s quite a bit to be sorting out now and you might find yourself being busy with things but not feeling much..or the exact opposite.
It’s good to know that you can post on here anything you need to express ans iam sure you will find great empathy.
Anthony
Thank you Anthony and sorry for your loss. We thought Mum had a bug and after scans and tests it turned out she had a bowel obstruction and a hiatus hernia. The first week we were told she would be monitored, perhaps a small operation and rehabilitation. We were then told on Christmas Day she wasn’t going to get better and as she was 90 the chances of the operation working were very slim. She made the decision she didn’t want it, which was definitely her decision to make but what a shock. We’re all just really numb now to be honest. Thank you for your kind words and best wishes to you.
@SJ35 Hi thanks for responding.
I am just realising that bowel obstructions for one are aren’t as rare for the elderly as I thought as I am seeing others having the same thing.My my mum was 87 and was told they wouldn’t operate due to her age and frailty plus being diabetic with other medical issues it just wouldn’t be safe.
Thanks for sharing this information and my heart does go out to you and the family at this time.
With your mum’s age ect and if they did surgery for then hernia as well..its hard to tell what her recovery would of been like…same with my mum too if they did decide to operate.
Given what’s happened.. each day you all get through is a miracle in itself with courage and an inner strength.
Anthony