Hi Jade, I am sorry you did not get the job, but well done for getting to the final stage. It is understandable that you’re feeling sad, and upset, because the job was probably something that you felt might help you cope, as it would bring some structure to your life, and maybe keep you busy. But at the same time, you are correct, maybe it is too early at the moment, you might not be ready to go back to work full-time, so who knows, it could be a blessing? Yes, it is quite awful when you wake up and have nothing to do, it’s scary, my landlord has been renovating the room next door and the kitchen all summer, he is a builder, so it’s just been great having him around and you can hear the noise, today he is off working somewhere else and the house is quite and that makes my depression worse, I talk regularly to three housemates, the guy in his 50s is at work, the woman in her 50s has broken up with her boyfriend and is sad in her room in the attic, and the woman in her late 30s who works at Sainsburys found out yesterday that her mum has cervical cancer and so she’s really stressed and now I have to try and be there for her, as well as worry about my mum who lives alone, and so it all gets really stressful. No, I haven’t worked for a few years now, I work in IT and as technology changes very fast it would be difficult to just go back and start off my career where I left off, there’s a friend from university who started his own company, I can contact him and ask him to employ me on a voluntary basis so I can get my skills updated on the job, but I am not ready to contact him, at the end of the day, even if he is a friend and I am not getting paid, I still want to do a good job and at this moment my mental health won’t allow it, maybe next month. Have you considered volunteering in a shop, like a charity shop? Is that something you might like? They’re very flexible, and you can go in whenever you like.
How is your aunty doing? Does she have someone to talk to apart from you? I am glad you at least have one another and can understand each other’s grief. Your brother probably copes by just being busy with his family. Yes, your mum was very close to you, and it must really hurt. I was reading a post by another woman who lost her mum, she said they were like peas in a pod, that’s what you and your mum seemed to have been like, you might also like to post in “Missing mum” as people there talk about their mums, and they will understand just how you feel.
I hope your appointment with the counsellor goes well and you feel a bit better.