Its been just over a year since I lost my Mum, who was also my best friend. I have also lost my Sister over the will, I cannot believe that life has thrown so much sadness towards me, and all I want to do is to talk to my Mum
I feel so fed up
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Hi @JAG,
Thank you for bravely reaching out. I’m so sorry to hear about your mum. You are not alone. I’m not sure if you’ve read some posts in our Losing a parent category. But there you can connect with other members who are living with grief after losing a parent.
I’m sure someone will be along to offer their support to you. In the meantime, you might find these Sue Ryder resources helpful to read.
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Our Losing a parent page talks through some of the emotions you may be experiencing
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Our Grief Guide self-help platform which has information, resources and advice to help you through your grief
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Our Bereavement Information pages which can walk you through what you are going through
I hope you find the community to be a support to you. Take good care and keep reaching out,
Seaneen
So sorry to hear you are having to not only manage grief but family disagreements. These times really do bring out the best and worst of people. I’m only at the start of the grief journey and looking too far into the future scares me as I see many people on here struggling numerous years on. Like you, the only person I want to speak to about it all is my mum. I do write to her but it’s not the same. All we can do is take it a day at a time. I hope you have other family around who can support you.
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Thankyou so much for your reply, it means so much.
Im so sorry to hear about your Mum, sending you big hugs
I think it’s a great idea writing her letters, im going to give that a try to see if that helps me.
For me the extra upset with my family has in some ways stopped me from being able to grieve properly, I really hope that you don’t have those issues.
Some days are easier than others, I found going to the cemetery and having a conversation with my Mum does help. I tell her all about what has gone on.
What i wouldn’t give for another conversation or hug, but I know she is with me everyday, just some days I’m overwhelmed and feel as this black cloud is hanging over my head.
Once again, thankyou for reaching out x
I do hope it helps a little. I do it daily without fail, even if some days are harder than others. I want her very mum a part of what’s going on. I’ve read it’s called continuous bond journalling and helps keep that connection. Today I had some big news and she was the first one I told through my journal - just as she y be if I could pick up the phone 
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Hey there I also lost my mum on Dec 1st she had a glioblastoma. I’ve also had discusting trouble from my dad as he’s refused to let me have anything from her possessions and didn’t have a will. This is making it harder and my daughter who’s 14 is struggling as was close to my mum. It’s hard at this time of year. I hope you have someone there for support. I do have my wonderful husband who has been great. We all need an ear sometimes so hit me up to chat.
Hi, thankyou for your reply, im so sorry to hear about your Mum, I can fully understand how you are feeling.
My Dad and sister have acted terribly, my parents were divorced, my Mum left me her bungalow and my sister money, but unless I give her half from the sale of the bungalow she no longer classes me as her sister, I have had nothing from her this Christmas not even a card.
I think to myself that im not responsible for how people receive information that they are given, my sister had nothing to do with my Mum.
Im so sorry that your Dad is being difficult, hopefully in time things improve.
We are here to support one another, message any time xx