I lost my mum nearly 3 weeks ago on Wednesday and at the minute it doesn’t feel real. I feel very lost,get grumpy at my poor husband and im struggling to sleep. The funeral is in 2 weeks and i dont want to have a complete breakdown then.
Dear kid I am sorry to hear that you are suffering. My lovely wife had a lot of problems when her mother died she was so close to her but she wasn’t present when she died as we thought she was ok . They were going to change her to an other hospital the next day and we left her with my wife’s father to go to work. When we left she died and my wife took along time to forgive herself. We tried a couple of therapists and found one that helped. We also spent a lot of time talking about it together. The problem is that people around you don’t often understand how devastating losing someone is until it happens to them. Which is my case. When my wife died, her last breath was her calling her mother. I hope now she is happy in her arms.
I hope you find some solace here where everyone is at different stages of grief and everyone understands the pain of losing the person they love.
Wishing you all the strength you need
Tom
