Please can someone share some experiance with coming to terms of losing my mum so sudden. I literally got a phone call beginning january she had collapsed in carpark N i rushed down to be witg her. She was having seizures and i knew she had a bleed my gut instinct told me so. Me and mum didnt speak much over xmas and we had fallen out over something so petty and had exchange of words that werent very nice i am now blaming myself for her bleed and stress and i already suffer anxiety i dont know how to deal with any of this 
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Hello @Drennan41,
I’m part of the Online Community team and I can see that you are new to the community - I’d like to thank you for bravely starting this thread and sharing how you are feeling. I’m so sorry to hear about the loss of your mum, and the guilt you are experiencing. Please know this was not your fault. Most community members have sadly experienced the death of a loved one and so will understand some of what you are going through.
I’m sure someone will be along to offer their support, but I wanted to share a few Sue Ryder resources with you that might be helpful.
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Our Grief Guide self-help platform which has information, resources and advice to help you through your grief
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Our Grief Coach text service, which sends you personalised text support via SMS
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Our free Online Bereavement Counselling which is held via video chat
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Our Bereavement Information pages which can walk you through what you are going through.
I really hope you find the community helpful and a good source of support and I also hope you feel you can access more support should you need it.
Thank you again for sharing – please keep reaching out and know that you are not alone.
Take care,
Alex
@Drennan41 please don’t blame yourself. I lost mum 19 days ago. We also argued often, we had a really complicated relationship and I’m full of guilt for many reasons. I’m having a proffessional help as this is so big I can’t do on my own. Happy to chat privately if you want to. Sending you lots of strength xx