My mum

Losing a parent
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I have just lost my beautiful mam :cry: :broken_heart: i am heartbroken :broken_heart: it is very very early days and raw but it hurts so much. I cant function I just sit stare and sob I dont even know why I am writing this. I will never get over this.

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Hi Paula i lost my mum on the 26th of April. Still so so so painful, you will prevail we will get through this.

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Thank you its only been 3 days its so so tough my eyes hurt so much :sleepy:

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Hi Paula,
I’m so sorry to hear about your beautiful Mum…I recently lost my Mum 3 weeks ago….there’s no words of comfort I can give you, each day is a struggle…but please try and look after yourself as that’s what you’re dear Mum would have wanted.
Take care,
Chris :pray::pray:

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Hi sorry to hear of your loss
I lost my mum over 7 years ago and my life hasn’t been the same ever since. And it won’t be my mum was huge part of my life. Honestly nothing prepares you to lose a mum. My life has changed I’ve changed that’s what grief does.
What I try to do is not let it hurt me so much but there are days when it does. I look after myself it’s what my mum would want.
I think of all the memories of my life with my mum and they are so lovely and comforting I’m holding on to them.

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Hi Paula,
I am so sorry for your loss. You are not alone. We are all here for you. My mum passed just under 2 weeks ago. At the point my world stopped, I feel completely lost and empty. I cry so much. She was my best friend as well as my mum. People tell me this is grief, and it is normal, but i can’t see life ever feeling normal again. I am sending you love and please be kind to yourself

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Thank you for your kind words its so hard isnt it

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Hi Steven thank you for your kind words my heart aches with pain :cry:

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Sorry to hear about your mum its so hard isnt it :cry: life will never be the same

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Hi Paula.
I’ll bet it does hurt. I know the feeling so well I’m completely heartbroken my mums gone. I’ll never be able to get my head around it as long as I live.
I just keep living day by day or should I say existing. You truly never come to terms with your loss. I’ve tried so hard to do that but up it pops my grief like an old enemy it’s not our friend it likes to hurt. I’ve found a way to cope it works

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Hi Steven I know exactly how your feeling my brother feels like you we was both very close to our mum she was our best friend and now thats gone i nod on and off then relive the pain :cry: over and over she suffered for 3 years we both held her to the end it was so hard

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Hi Paula.
Yes it is hard facing it day by day. I don’t know how I’m coping without my mum she wasn’t just my best friend she was truly special person there was no one like my mum. God how I wish I could see her one more time. Some days I keep thinking I’m going to get a phone call from my mum asking me how my day is going or how work is. I know if I did I’d walk out of work sod my job and reality kicks in I’m not going to get that phone call I do want. If I did first thing I’d ask is where did you go I had a horrible dream you left me. It’s a cruel thought to put in my head it’s worse when I’m in work. It’s not fair
I know I have this comfort that my mum is by my side always she’s holding in her arms more like I’m holding so close. If she was here I’d never let her go ever
We don’t deserve to go through this

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I know we cant believe its happened I lost my dad 9 years ago I am not over that now I have lost my mum :broken_heart: my heart is empty its just so hard I cant face my job or people I just sit and stare

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I know the feeling i work In a high pressured enforcing job working on the streets. I get a lot of abuse from the idiotic public calling me horrible names even attacking me all for doing my job. It doesn’t help when I’m having a bad day grieving over my mum. I just stand there and take it rather than bite back

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Aww not nice rise above small minded people they will face hurt one day stay strong your mum would want that for you

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Hi Paula no it’s nice. I don’t say anything back because they are not worth it. 8 years of doing this but I refuse to let them get to me Would you believe it people have tried to kill me using a car towards me all over a ticket.
Karma will hurt them one day I believe that

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So sorry to hear of the passing of your dear mom. I just recently lost my mom. I cried so much I thought it would never end. It was so painful the first few weeks. I’ve been having more happy days lately thinking of all the beautiful memories I have of her. The hard ones still creep in unexpectedly but that is part of the grieving process. Being able to grieve is the start of our healing. Its a journey that is different for each individual. There is no right or wrong way . Just know your mom loved you dearly and she is with you everyday . Sending hugs to you.

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Sorry for your loss what lovely kind words thank you. It is very raw and hurts so much :broken_heart: :cry:

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So sorry Paula, it’s very hard to have any words that will help. I am just over a month in, and just sleep, trying to, some food, lots of tears. My heart literally aches so much.
I know they would not want us to suffer but this is truly devastating.
For me sleep stories on the Calm app have helped, I bought one of those Snoozeband masks with speakers inside. Magnesium bath salts and magnesium body butter. Aromatherapy. Lots of hugs from my husband. Talking with the friends who are able to.

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Yes its so hard I am finding morning’s and evenings the hardest. I just want to tell her I love her again its just so tough :sleepy: the world carries on around you :broken_heart:

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