Hello
My mum has been in my thoughts lot lately.
She was the most kindest person you could ever met. She was always smiling always laughing had a very dry humour and very intelligent. Every conversation I had with my mum was a joy she’d make problems melt away. When she looked at me she looked with love in her eyes. A hug from my mum made everything right. God I miss my mum so much. What I wouldn’t give to have a phone call from my mum.
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Hey @Steven,
I understand, my Mum too was the kindest most lovely person you could meet. My Mum was my emotional regulator, if I was upset she was the person that made everything feel OK. My Mum always had love in her eyes and her hug made everthing seem OK. I miss my Mum so much too, I am in tears again. I had to change the ring tone of our phone as I was so upset each morning hearing the ring tone that was usually Mum saying she was up and OK. I am heartbroken too.
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Hi rainbow
I’m sorry my message made me cry. I just wanted to talk about my mum. I don’t say it enough. It will never be enough. To be honest writing this makes me cry.
I’ll never stop talking about how wonderful my mum was and still is because for me she’s not really left me.
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@Steven
I understand, I feel the same, I’ll never stop talking about my Mum and how lovely and wonderful she was. I cry every day Steven at some point and when I’m messaging on her most times than not I cry.
Our Mum’s aren’t physically with us but in our hearts and minds they are as strong as ever and nobody can take that from us.
This is the price we’re paying for having a lovely Mum / relationship. A lot of people never experience that.
Do you have any support around you Steven?
Hi rainbow.
I have my dad as support but I don’t bother him because I don’t want to upset him. It’s hard for him.
I do need support otherwise I just cope on my own. even I’m finding it extremely hard to deal with my own grief. These past 8 years since I lost my mum has torn me apart. I honestly don’t know how I’m doing it on my own. I suppose I’m just living day by day and hoping I’ll not have to feel to much grief. I feel lost and I hate what it’s doing to me. Sure I’ve told myself don’t let grief consume you. This is so hard writing this. Al I want to do is cry
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@Steven
Do you think you and your Dad could support each other? If it’s hard for him and hard for you maybe you’re both holding back and could help each other? It does sound like you need someone else to help you. Is there a Sue Ryder Grief Kind Space near you that you could go to? check in with the staff on here maybe they can help you. Keep posting too on here if it helps. I find it helps me just knowing there’s other people feeling something like I am.
Hi rainbow
I wouldn’t have a clue.
No I think we are supporting each other.
We have been so much heartache but I do know I’m on my own at the end of the day
Hi @Steven sorry for the delay in responding.
To find out if there’s a Grief Kind Space near you you can check this out on the Sue Ryder website. You’ll need to put in your postcode. Another thing you can do which I’ve done is sign up to the text service and every few days you will receive a text which gives you information to help you through, sometimes the text will arrive just as you need something. Any bits of information to help try to take it.