In 2 1/2 weeks its the 1st anniversary of my mums passing. Im struggling already. I miss her so much .Christmas was awful without her as it was her favourite time of the year. My mood swings are terrible. Im finding it hard to explain to my partner how im feeling. I miss her so much .I go to to the cemetery every week still .Really dont know how i will cope on the day .
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Hi @Emma50 I’m sorry for your loss. I dont know the right thing to say but you’re not alone. Sending strength to you.
Thank you xx
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26 January was a year to the day my beloved passed away. I miss him so much. I cry every day . He was the light of my life 
. I know how you feel. I miss my beloved each and every day.
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I’m just like you - I lost my gorgeous mum on 4th February last year and feel and do just like you including being so glad to see the back of the Christmas that I usually love.
I can’t offer help of what to do on the day - could do with help myself. I’m going to try and do as I’ve done on dad’s anniversary - try and make it a lovely day including a cemetery visit, meeting family, tea out at mum’s favourite place, lots of happy tales of mum with my family.
I hope you can find strength to get through your day, take care x
Im so sorry for your loss sending hugs x
Thank you .Im planning on spending my day with my son ,cemetery visit then off to mums favourite sea side place for fish and chips and memories. Hope you get through the day best you can xxx
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Emma,
I am also struggling with the loss of my mother. She died in 2019 and yes I cried initially, but got to grips with it until Christmas just gone the 5th anniversary. I am struggling so much and just like you I don’t know what to do.
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It’s just as hard 5 years on, I know that about my dad - I’ve been missing him for 10 years.
Just take one day at a time and try and remember and do your mum in things she liked doing - it’s hard I know, as these are a couple of tips friends have passed to me.
It’s a small help, but doesn’t fill the hole she’s left me, just like you.
Just be kind to yourself and keep thinking of the happier times.
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Thank you, I am trying so hard and know that it will pass. I just have to keep going.
Its really hard dont you think ? Im fed up of hearing she was good age and you should be over the griefing .
Was there anything that happened to make you feel this way again or just crept up on you ? X
My mother was 90 and I was not ready for her to go. My personal opinion, they give up on the old and write if off as dementia. My grief now is more than when she actually died, I need my mom. I need to hear her words of wit and wisdom, I need her, not some picture, I just need to talk to her.
My mum was 90 too and I think it actually makes it harder the older age they reach, as you come so incredibly close when you need to help them more.
Pictures are nice, but not the same. The pictures of Christmas 23 actually hurt me at Christmas 94 as those 2023 pics showed a happy and well mum and then four weeks later … They almost made me angry seeing her so well and how quickly everything went wrong the following month, in hospital weeks later for the last time.
There’s a bit going on for me at home and I keep thinking all I need is not photo’s - but one of her lovely hugs - they used to put everything right for me x
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Thank you x
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