My partner unexpectedly passed away

Losing a partner
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I am not normally one for sharing but now is the time ,My partner of 24 yesrs unexpectedly passed away on the 28th January i still keep thinking this can’t be real i have no idea what I am going to do without him

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I am very sorry to know how you feel as I have felt that as well. I am 1 year in and I am amazed that I got through. :people_hugging: Listen to your body if you can and don’t be scared of new ways to get by is all I can offer.

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Thank you :heart:

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I’m so sorry for your loss. I’m 3 years in and nothing anyone can do or say will take away the crippling pain. The only thing you can do is take one day, hour or minute at a time - whatever you can manage. Be kind to yourself and don’t expect too much from yourself. You are in a place now you didn’t want or ask for and it will take time to find your new future but for now just hold on tight. You really are not alone x

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Thank you means a lot x

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Sorry for your loss too x

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Sorry for your loss x

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So sorry for your loss. I remember vividly the shock and disbelief when my partner died suddenly. I’m 4 and a half months into the nightmare now and it all seems like a bad dream at times.. Hopefully you have friends and family to support you. All you can do is take it a day at a time, try to eat even when you don’t feel like it. Accept offers of help. Grief rips your heart out, everyone on this site understands.

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Thanks so sorry for your loss I am very lucky I have plenty of family and friends to support me i can not imagine what it is like for people who have no support :heart:

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So sorry to read about the loss of your partner. Sad to say you’re in this awful place that you didn’t ever think about, or want. 4 months since I lost my lovely husband, and I can’t tell you anything much other than talk to him, tell him how much you love him, as that love will always be there. Read the posts here, as believe me we all understand and are going through the awfulness of grief and loss too. Take care of yourself x

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Grief is the most deep pain we can experience. Such grief shows how much we loved our partners. I am 3 months into this journey where although I knew my husband was terminally ill I was not ready for his passing. It happened to you so suddenly with no preparation. Take your time. Try to eat, sleep may not be easy but rest when you can. I am thinking of you, you are not alone. I’m putting my arm around your shoulders and I hope it gives you some comfort. We’ll get there - in time.

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Thank you for your kind words ,i will read the posts and i will talk him all time and I am so sorry for your loss

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So very sorry for your loss.

My husband died suddenly and unexpectedly.

As others have written, take it minute, hour or day by day.
Whatever you feel you need to do.
Be kind to yourself, don’t put pressure on yourself.
Definitely talk to your partner

It doesn’t seem real or possible does it?
Take care and feel free to post here, there are so many here who understand.

Big hug

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Thank you I am so sorry for your loss :heart:

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Thank you so much means a lot I am so sorry for your loss sending hugs back x

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I’m so sorry this has happened to you too. My husband died suddenly over 6 months ago now. I pray to wake up and this to have been an awful nightmare.

All I can say to help is, don’t think of the future now take it a minute, hour, day at a time. Distraction is the only way I get through the days. I keep as busy as I can. Eat whatever you can, I lived on yoghurt and quiche (please try to do better than me) I still sleep with the TV on (boring dramas) or YouTube (boring history for sleep) volume down low so I have to listen. This stops me thinking. I take a herbal sleeping tablet (sleepeze from boots) but don’t be afraid to ask your GP for help if you need it. Mine gave me a week’s supply but I only took one which I broke in half. I have kept the rest in case I get desperate one day.

Whatever your feeling someone here has been there too. For me, I’m scared, I’m angry, I’m so terribly sad. Post here and someone will be here to hear you.

Take care, a big hug from me too x

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Thank you so much i am eating but a lot less then when he was here it seems pointless cooking proper meals for just me and I am so sorry for your loss too big hugs sent back :heart:

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I didn’t eat after my husband passed away. I couldn’t. Then I thought what’s the point of cooking. So I’ve been eating ‘comfort’ foods, biscuits, chocolate, crisps, it’s got to stop. I just couldn’t be bothered. I’ve got to start cooking and eating properly. We all need a crutch. It isn’t easy. Take your time, Take care.

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Thanks I will do that’s exactly what I have been doing eating snack food I feel hungry so eat a bit of something then I feel sick I have been drinking plenty of water though so that’s good

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