Six months ago I lost my wife and it has changed me and my life completely. I used to be a husband sharing, planning, and living as a loving couple. We would have ideas and plans. We would visit garden centres together and I would assist in my wife’s pleasure she got from the garden. But I now exist in a shadow of that life I have no plans. I now try to fill my weeks with activities but I still come home to a lonely bungalow with memories of my old life all around me.
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Hello Tony
I am so sorry that you lost your darling wife. There is nothing to compare with the pain of losing someone you love so dearly.
I lost my wonderful Mum three months ago and I was with her 24/7. Like you I am now trying to find my way in this new life I didn’t ask for and it is so hard.
I also try to fill my days with activities and just try to get out of the house as much as I can. But no matter what you do, you still have to come back to that empty house with no one to talk to or tell what you’ve been doing.
I hope you have friends and family that you can turn to, and will be there for you when you need them.
Look after yourself and just try to take things one step at a time - no matter how small that step is. My thoughts are with you and this community will always be there for support and comfort when you need it.
Sheena has said it all really. But just know that you’re not alone. I’m in a similar position to you - my husband died 3 months ago and although I’m coping on a practical level, it all seems pointless without David here to share it all with. Sending you strength to get through and perhaps find some comfort in your memories.
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Hello Tony8
What you say resonates so much. My life was so full before my husband passed 2 and half years ago. He had retired only 4 years before his passing and we had so much going on but after he retired that was when his illness took hold and it was just an everyday occurrence of hospitals, GPs. oncologists etc where the irony was when he worked he hardly ever visited a GP surgery or hospitals so he never really got to enjoy his retirement. Like you say all the plans we had when he was here are all gone now. I am hardly out at all now we would always be out somewhere. It is so hard on your own and at times you just feel invisible. Like you I try to fill my day with activities as much as possible but sometimes the incentive is just not there and at times no matter how hard you try to keep occupied, that empty feeling is always there. Its good to come to places like this and to know that it is just not you going through this. Take Care of yourself and my best wishes to you moving forwards.
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