My son

Losing a child
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My son Paul my only child who I nursed for the last ten years of his life he was 50, he had many serious illnesses , diabetes , kidney failure , rheumatoid arthiritis, and transverse mylitis , which took him off his feet and had left him bed bound, I miss him so much and I feel iv lost my way, I know it’s early days on my journey with grief I want to talk with my husband but when I cry he tells me to shut up, he is emotionally cold even before Paul passed and did little to help in the caring of Paul, it’s been very hard during those years , iv had two heart attacks myself, and disabled,

my husband sent me to the funeral home alone said he couldn’t come ,since Paul’s passing the chasm between us is massive and I feel so alone , I just want to be alone with my thoughts of Paul

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Hello @Vera1,

I can see that you’re new to the community. I hope you find it to be a support to you, but I am so sorry for the loss of your son Paul, that brings you here.

You say you are feeling so alone. I wanted to share some sources of support that might help you right now.

  • Child Bereavement UK support families with the loss of a child. They also support bereaved children. You can call their helpline on 0800 02 888 40.

  • The Compassionate Friends support families who have lost a child of any age. They have a grief companion scheme where you can get 1-1 support from another bereaved parent. You can call them on 0345 123 2304.

Sue Ryder also has some resources which can help you cope with grief.

  • Our Grief Guide self-help platform which has information, resources and advice to help you through your grief

  • Our Bereavement Information pages which can walk you through what you are going through.

Thank you again for sharing – please keep reaching out and know that you are not alone.

Take care,

Alex

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Dear Vera, know how you are feeling. My 50 year old son has widespread kidneycancer and I and the family are in shock as he has always been so fit. How this will turn out we do not know but it does not look good . They have two little girls aged 10 and 5 years old. Know how you must be feeling after all this and we hope something can be done for my son. Big big hugs to you dear one God give you strength, much love from Carole

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Hi , I’m so very sad to read your sons situation, I know your angst and fear for the future,yes Paul left behind 2 children we have sought comfort in each other, we made the best of each day as best we could, iv involved myself in making gifts for our local hospice to help others in Paul’s memory, please be kind to yourself i know how you feel, I will keep you all in my prayers and thoughts,love Vera x

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Thank you vera x